Quote Originally Posted by Lord Pixel View Post
I have a question.

When you broke up with NFs, were any of your reasons type related? Any if they were what were they?

My first ever young person (teen) 'relationship' was with a EIE, and that ended because of a lot of young people things. It's funny, reconnecting a few years later, we could barely stand each others presence (She was such a pushy Fe person then, and I wasn't having it), yet we still hold a great sense of respect to each other, haha.


In my most substantial delta NF relationship, in reality I guess I would say no, it wasn't 'type relate' why it ended. Although the problems did come out in typical ST being emotionally dumb. There was a difference in rationality, and some elements of communication, but they honestly weren't that massive. The biggest thing was experience, for both of us. The most prominent factor was probably me not knowing what I wanted or knowing how to pursue or invest in a long term relationship, at that time. I didn't know myself well enough - and I would say that isn't particularly a type related thing. I think we, then and now even, got along very well in terms of socionics, the comfort level and shared values was never in question. I learned a great deal from that situation, and even more from being out of it and still being friends with her to this day.

I've since talked her through 2-3 SERIOUS breakups, and it's been very interesting being on both sides of the story. Comparing what happened as the bf and what she was thinking as an outsider. I've more so been the bff and confidant though, in other situations.

I don't think every delta ST wants the same thing nor every NF, but I know in general that delta NFs in their idealized view of what they want fits very well with what I want, in the sense of a serious, enduring relationship.