I say when, you say why, I say I don't know, because it could be anything, and we will just have to wait and see. Methinks your upbringing in the endless winter of Canada has probably frozen a bit more than your ass. The ice has relentlessly advanced into your soul, abrading and corroding its innocence to become so rigid that you fail to see any nuance within good and evil.
Well personally i don't get attracted to toxic or bad people. I don't want a project to fix, but a partner able to give and take equally. But if the person gradually revealed their flaws and toxicity. I try to put a blind eye to it because of my Se polr. In some ways, i'd rather live this constructed happy fantasy rather than be able to deal with it realistically because then i need to confront reality and nothing i hate more than confrontation (also i have fear of abandonment so i cant handle ending relationships, i know it'll break me). So i tend to stick in bad and dead relationships, even if my needs or wants have been ignored. I would try to focus on the good from that person and ignore the bad in order to maintain my happy fairytale fantasy to remain relatively sane.
Last edited by ShiningLunette; 11-13-2020 at 09:39 PM.
Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.