So I think that two of my closest male friends are both SLEs, though both are a little different types of SLEs. One is a guy with no limits or boundaries whatsoever. He just does crazy, impulsive random shit and then he comes to me when he feels bad about his past behavior. He also seeks my company, when he needs a reassurance about his abilities. There's a slight possibility of him being an ILE though, because he seems kinda too goofy, indecisive and random for an SLE. The thing is that I like him as a friend and we're really very close, he even calls me his sister, but I'd never ever date him. I could not stand his inappropriate social behavior, his non existing filter when it comes to saying whatever comes to his mind first out loud, offending people whenever he feels likes it, and more than anything his neverending partying. He'd do anything for fun, for the sake of the thrill no matter how crazy, inappropriate or weird it is. He ended up in my 10 years of friendzone and I'm absolutely sure it's not going to change.
The other SLE I know used to be really crazy guy when I first met him, when I was 17. Now he's more grounded and mature, but he's still the good old thrill seeker, a casino addict, and almost a pathological lier who'd say anything just to make himself look smarter, better, more hard working and handsome than you. Whenever you say that you had 2 coffees today, he already had 8. Whenever you say that you had 20 girlfriends he had 40. And the list goes on... I was really into him, when I didn't know about what kind of a person he really was. But as soon as I learned, 8 years of friendzone for him too. I still like him enough to be his friend, but not enough to date him.
The only SLE I've ever been in a relationship with was an emotionally manipulative sociopath who stalked me, abused me, lied to me, cut me off from all my friends, and crawled back as a hurt faithful dog whenever I dumped him. Worst relationship ever, the most unhealthy, fucked up, weird thing I've ever experienced.
The last one on my list is a guy who I have to say, I believe is an xLE, well he was just like the others too much of a crazy mess for me to date him and so I tried really hard to friendzone him , but he was too persisting and pushy about his romantic feelings so I had to door slam him.
To make this short... I think SLEs can be interesting people as my friends, but I haven't met one who'd seem like a good relationship material. I'm currently in a relationship with an EIE and I find it to be the most stable and beneficial one.
I wonder what are other IEI's experiences with SLEs and if friendzoning your duals is something that happens to other people too? Also what relationships in your life have you find to be the most rewarding and good for you?