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    yeah I dont make a habit of calling stuff easy because if they end up struggling with it its just laying the groundwork for them to feel bad about it, which tends to make things worse. rather I try to say stuff "don't worry, we'll figure it out" or "there's no rush" or even "ill make sure its good" that way they can hopefully relax a little. if something is hard I just say its hard, but I want to say working with some quadra make even simple tasks sound like a march to war like its always high stakes and we need to get mobilized. thats what I think this is really about. there's a kind of veiled threat of future failure or disaster lurking behind instructions some types give or certain management style. its like feeding people vague apprehensions in order to mobilize them is super annoying to me. I think of "its easy" as the opposite of that. all this, everything is a big deal go big or go home, always put in high intensity along with warnings about what could happen if it goes wrong I take to be SLE trying to mobilize IEI by Fe and +Se and trying to cover for Te. its like not really about the objective work. also the apprehension thing is more about their suggestive Ni being played back at IEI and doesn't bother IEI because theyre relentlessly positive and in the cloud and probably need some of that... that's the idea anyway. I find these types hard to work with because they dont calibrate their effort and are one step away from turning anything into some kind of drama. on the other hand theyre unlikely to call stuff easy unless theyre trying to show off (this would be more about AMOGing and is not a sincere attempt to help). when they do instruct, Ti creatives tend to be tactful and patient, which is nice

    I guess what I'm saying is the words don't count for much its whether someone is trying to reassure someone and thus de-escalate a situation or AMOG them. I think sometimes people feel like they're being subordinated (within the hierarchy of ability and thus merit) when someone says something is easy and it turns out not to be easy for them, and this makes them feel bad. I think this is classic looking for Fe and getting Te and treating it as if it were Fe/Ti and thus receiving it wrong, thinking the other person is being a dick. If they're intentional then its Fe/Ti on purpose and its AMOG type thing. If its unintentional its best to phrase things in such a way so as not to hurt people's feelings if they end up being bad at it, but really their "point" was to deescalate the intensity of the situation, which is sort of an example of people being like "they didn't mean it that way" when people turn around and get offended. rather they just wanted to point out this wont be a trial, by making an objective statement on the work. the thing is sometimes people aren't afraid of or even seek out trials, and instead don't want objective evaluations of work, they want it to be "difficult" so when they celebrate later its a big deal etc and they're the smartest for overcoming it etc. they also don't want objective evaluations of work because it robs their future bragging rights, but also sets them up to look bad if they end up being unable to perform, at the same time it undercuts their motivation because it makes it sound like not a big deal.. this sort of thing would be annoying for beta types who want to wring every possible positive emotion from a situation
    Last edited by Bertrand; 05-17-2018 at 07:44 AM.

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