What's the intertype relation?

[HERO]

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[powerrainbowcrystal]

Hmm you are shy gay and sensitive like me so I relate to you on that front. However I do think you should lighten up more and not be so hard on yourself... And just be extra careful of who you open up with and about what. Proper boundaries are healthy. I only tell you this cuz I learned the hard way too. Hope ya feel better *HUGS*

[HERO]

Hmm you are shy gay and sensitive like me so I relate to you on that front. However I do think you should lighten up more and not be so hard on yourself... And just be extra careful of who you open up with and about what. Proper boundaries are healthy. I only tell you this cuz I learned the hard way too. Hope ya feel better *HUGS*

Thanks for the kind words. I wish I could be more like you and everyone else who's kind, sane, centred, and normal. Anyway, I asked my tarot cards if you ever sent a message to Pierce, and they said yes. I don't really care that much, since I probably didn't have a chance anyway. And maybe the cards are wrong about this. And even if I lost my only real chance, then it was because I made bad choices and had bad karma. If I make better choices, then maybe my life can change for the better. Either way, I guess I'll find out sooner or later; yet I definitely have to be less passive.

[waddup]

Yo, its wacey, break is over and I want to come back to the sand box. Will just switch over to the other account, so now you all know I'm not some jewbie lurker. Stay safe and have fun, Particip-ACTION!

ps, wow the sign up process is tight, love it, keep up the good work mu4!

[waddup]

Hey hero, so I had to come out of hiakus for this thread.

What you have is (always IMO), a classic case of extinguishment relationships. You are IEI, yeah? This person you are chatting with sounds IEE. Every time you go to share something that requires a Fe positive response, you get hit with a blast of creative ethics.."you should" "not right" "normal people".."you are awesome"..". See what I mean? Have you ever seen Mean Girls? The evil chick, Regina? She is a evil IEE.

I feel the same way around *some* IEE, not that they are necessarily my extinguishment partners.

You get really awesome IEE, like youtuber JP Spears, really funny and balanced and self aware. Then you get IEE like Regina, game playing, passive aggressive, manipulating ethical facts, condescension masked as help. Plus I'm seeing the creative subtype way more than IEE-Ne.

Any sociotype that is balanced is going to look better then the unbalanced version and yes, every type has an unbalanced version.

Looking over your conversations, you really seem very sweet and open, almost vulnerable. You are looking for someone to be working with energies, to walk through your stuff with you and transmute it. Help build a personalized framework, which comes more from Ti and also free you from the {thought bubble}, which is your Ni seeking energetic release through Se. This guy isn't really doing that. He is working more on what you should be doing, how you should be behaving, what you should be thinking, and how you should be thinking it, essentially an ethical approuch. You don't really require that sort of thing, so you keep trying to explain and are continually undermined and made to feel more doubtful, instead of positive. Plus, every time you leave you make him look like he one -upped you. Like he had the answers to your problems and you were the student. This kind of approach is great for SLIs. He is doing ethics for you.

Also, notice the way he seeks context all the time, and acts non-chalant yet annoyed when you glaze over it? Paraphrased "who is this person to you?" This is Ne in action finding static Fi context. Making sense of the external world by seeking every detail possible in order to construct that world view for that situation. This person you are speaking with in particular is bad for doing that. Of course everyone does that to an extent, yet this person does it several times on several different dates.

An IEI works in vagaries of speech (remember they need to invigorate at times, as well as, quite down their dual - this takes a variety of approach). They are constructing synergistically. You have to be able to bounce into a randomized comment immediately and follow the flow of that in time. The story always out, but it will take awhile and the stream is going to meander. Not a Ne conversational style meandering, as we all now (for example, from balloon animals to black holes, to world affairs to Donald Trump). More of a drawn out.

I see that this guy is trying to support you via other channels, and becomes visibly bored by you, even covertly insulting you at several points. Ick. Switching his tactics at the end of a sentence is slimy, note the "ya buts.." regarding ethics in his speech towards you? I have had to deal with this myself, so there is a little projection here and I am aware. I call them the ethical "ya buts" of the IEE. "yeah I heard you BUT it also means this.." See the way they are trying to create meaning *for* you? This pattern remains for me to see which is why I jumped back into the forum today to speak with you.

The more IEI feel supported by the mutual understanding of their conversation partner, the more confident they become.
meaning----> catharsis via conversation. That inward amalgamating instead of external possibilities.

I see this playing out in your conversations. Energetically, how does that guy make you feel? Where is his talking hitting you? When you leave is it moth to flame? Attracted yet burned by the convo again and again? Like, what is his energy?