Quote Originally Posted by The Idiot View Post
Is it really true that all INFjs are nice and wouldn't hurt a fly? I don't really believe in the stereotype but they're everywhere so I've been starting to have doabts. Those descriptions and stereotypes are there for a reason, right? But anyway, I want to know what up you guys think about it. Are INFjs really all super nice people or is it just an individual thing?
To answer this question more seriously, I'd say it depends a large part on their enneagram, as far as how they come across.

9w1 and 1w9 can seem quite cold, even detached, rigid, judgemental.
2s can be warmer
4s maybe more charismatic
6s are often analytical and can be very "balanced" and even try to seem rather "strong" in a general sense especially if counterphobic.
Phobic sixes will probably be more fleeting and potentially worrisome or nagging about things.


As i have said elsewhere,
I think the broadest general stereotype about deltas is this "good faith judgement" stuff, when in reality, it's more that no-judgement or a developing judgement is taking place, and there is filler or a buffer in the meantime. EIIs can have trouble with their own needs when they are in conflict or they feel a sense of giving or sharing something, but generally the more healthy they are the more upfront about all of that they are.


For a general sense of nice and perky or smiley, Fe-creatives (SEI, IEI) and even IEE, tend to be more "nice" all the time.
EIIs are probably more likely to be gentle and relatively good natured, but not particularly invested in creating a warm climate or doing a lot of emotionally obvious tending. Their work is more in understanding, comprehending, and helping process things. The irrationals I mentioned earlier (all "XXFps") feel, to me, to be generally more interested in how things "feel" and tend to that more. EIIs care, but they are more focused on authenticity of their feeling rather than its emotiveness -- on what it means, to them, or to others.

What sets EIIs apart here is that they are the only Te-dual seeking NF, or again out of the other types mentioned thus far.
But I think anyone with 4D Fi can be very morally bound and ultimately make a lot of their personal choices based on that, which would be their strongest evaluating element.