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    I don't love humanity, but I do believe in people. I try to understand them and assist them when I can, but I have also learnt to give up on toxic people instead of just getting used to them. Shitty people arise from shitty circumstances and my anger is toward the circumstances, not the people. If anything I pity those people. I fight to eradicate those circumstances, but at the same time I do believe some people need to be set in their place.

    You need to be able to get along with people to get what you want in this life, it's just how it goes. I'm nice, but to a point. EII are meant to be highly empathetic people. I remember when I was a child I literally felt empathetic toward everyone and everything, but it's been drained the hell out of me over the years. Now I am VERY picky, I almost instantly know who is and who is not worth it, who aligns with my values and who doesn't, and I don't hide my feelings or observations about people anymore. I'm pretty open when something they do irritates me, sometimes to the point of incessant complaining (ugh).

    I don't think its a matter of niceness, whatever that means... being passive aggressive or codependent is not being nice. It's gutless, learnt behaviour that I am working on haha.

    I think it's just a matter of using your powers for good. I can totally see how I could fly off the handle and use it for "bad", though lol.
    Last edited by velveteen; 11-10-2017 at 03:44 AM.

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