At the risk of sounding inconsistent as fuck, after thinking about the subtype theory that silke presented, and after reflecting on my past and how I solved problems as a kid, I find it hard to escape the conclusion that I'm LSI Se with ADD and C subtype that includes ILE and the other lead types. I found it hard to use force as a kid, not because it was unnatural, but because I was discouraged from using it, so I had to devise other methods. But Se ego explains why, other than the ADD, I got along very well with the LSI (we finished each others' sentences when younger). It also explains why people respond to me the way they do - for reasons up until now I found inexplicable. I think it takes some fortitude and cunning to be my friend in the long run because I tend to push a lot of buttons (@Remiel is an example of someone who's been there for years, and yes, he is like this and he also leads with ). Se subtype explains why I have a strong connection to Si, Fi, and Fe. I am more emotional than the typical ST. Furthermore, the connection to Si explains why it comes as relatively easy access, in terms of what I mentioned in our conversation about duality and how duals facilitate growth in weak spots. Furthermore, if I was ILE with LSI in my subtype, that would mean that I'm a normalizing ILE, which I'm not.
So this begs the question - why do we click? I suspect you're IEI Fe, and if you're harmonizing subtype then you have a connection to Si. Why do I suspect you're IEI? Well, the theme of following the white rabbit classically represents Ni (following a hunch and going deep to observe what surfaces). Time is also relevant. I was essentially describing my perspective on Ni in post #192. I recall you talking about how you like when your friends tell you about how bad they are, upfront - this sounds more like Se seeking than Ne seeking. Se is face value and can imply danger, dovetailing with my explanation about Ni in post #192. Furthermore, the signals that you need help in business (especially the logistical side) seem more Se seeking than Ne seeking. If you are 9, then you will have a tendency to forget yourself, which explains why these qualities aren't exceedingly evident. Moreover, I think you probably understand me better than anyone on this website, which I don't think would happen if the understanding was simply based on subtype compatibility. It's way too fucking close for that, and more generally, IEI tends to be excellent at understanding others. So I think an explanation is needed for why you say you are not seeking - it's probable that some negative past experiences have turned you off to the connotations involved with Victim/Aggressor style dynamics, which is understandable. But it's the logical conclusion. As a side note, the names given to these styles are misleading in several ways, which I'm sure you understand, but it had to be said. "Victim" style is just seeing potential in someone and then putting them through a gauntlet to see the potential come out. Gauntlets can often include the notion that there is no gauntlet; the subtly of it serves as a challenge.