Two Sx-firsts in a relationship?
Sx-Sx Relationship Pros and Cons
Two Sx-firsts in a relationship?
C-EII-INFj 4w3 Sx/sp 479
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C-EII-INFj 4w3 Sx/sp 479
SX can manifest as two extremes, attraction-repulsion in chemistry, it's likeso to speak. If you have two forces coming together like this, it's sure to be especially intense when meeting, and also in the long run. Love-hate, magnets, no prisoners taken. Great excitations are at work, a hormone rush. It escalates fast, no other stackings come together that way (SP firsts for instance, takes really really long erring on the side of security). Great emotions and even drama, or total bodily obsession - heavy dreaming, too. Longing. The relationship may have many ups and downs, getting too close, then separating. Like an intense kiss where you need air abruptly. A break-up is extremely painful since they merged so much, losing themselves.
There is no moderation for two people like that, it's pronounced when they are both SP last. Having SX/SP and SX/SO together is slightly better, although their opposite flows are an obstacle. At least they compensate for each other's blind spots quite easily. SX/SO can make SX/SP's antics more socially acceptable, defending. SX/SP can take care of SX/SO.
SX/SP and SX/SP together have the best compatibility since they can retreat to SP, they won't burn out, and they are both in synflow. Their shared social blind spot won't get in the way of the relationship, SO is more needed to annex the "greater good" to something, which a couple can go without still being happy.
Romeo & Juliet are the classic SX-SX couple in fiction, portrayed by Olivia Hussey & Leonard Whiting in the 1968 movie here. It could give you a concept of how it feels like.
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SP safety and SO consent by community are pushed to the background for the sake of being together.
Love you Chae!
C-EII-INFj 4w3 Sx/sp 479
In general, I believe that it is favourable to have a partner who shares your instinctual stacking. Relationships of this nature are the easiest to start and the least likely (at least in theory) to see clashes over lifestyle choice.
I am sx/so and simply overwhelm sp heavy people.
Crumbs. Crumbs in the bed everywhere.
Projection is ordinary. Person A projects at person B, hoping tovalidate something about person A by the response of person B. However, person B, not wanting to be an obejct of someone elses ego and guarding against existential terror constructs a personality which protects his ego and maintain a certain sense of a robust and real self that is different and separate from person A. Sadly, this robust and real self, cut off by defenses of character from the rest of the world, is quite vulnerable and fragile given that it is imaginary and propped up through external feed back. Person B is dimly aware of this and defends against it all the more, even desperately projecting his anxieties back onto person A, with the hope of shoring up his ego with salubrious validation. All of this happens without A or B acknowledging it, of course. Because to face up to it consciously is shocking, in that this is all anybody is doing or can do and it seems absurd when you realize how pathetic it is.
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