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    Default 10 Neurotic Needs

    The Original Enneagram (but with a less mystical number involving no infinitely-repeating digits or Sufism):

    1. The neurotic need for affection and approval (see The Neurotic Personality of Our Time, Chapter 6, on the need for affection):

    • Indiscriminate need to please others and to be liked and approved of by others;
    • Automatic living up to the expectations of others;
    • Center of gravity in others and not in self, with their wishes and opinions the only thing that counts;
    • Dread of self-assertion;
    • Dread of hostility on the part of others or of hostile feelings within self.


    2. The neurotic need for a "partner" who will take over one's life (see New Ways in Psychoanalysis, Chapter 15, on masochism, and Fromm's Escape from Freedom, Chapter 5, on authoritarianism; also the example given below in Chapter 8):


    • Center of gravity entirely in the "partner," who is to fulfill all expectations of life and take responsibility for good and evil, his successful manipulation becoming the predominant task;
    • Overvaluation of "love" because "love" is supposed to solve all problems;
    • Dread of desertion;
    • Dread of being alone.


    3. The neurotic need to restrict one's life within narrow borders:


    • Necessity to be undemanding and contented with little, and to restrict ambitions and wishes for material things;
    • Necessity to remain inconspicuous and to take second place;
    • Belittling of existing faculties and potentialities, with modesty the supreme value;
    • Urge to save rather than to spend;
    • Dread of making any demands;
    • Dread of having or asserting expansive wishes.


    4. The neurotic need for power (see The Neurotic Personality of Our Time, Chapter 10, on the need for power, prestige, and possession):


    • Domination over others craved for its own sake;
    • Devotion to cause, duty, responsibility, though playing some part, not the driving force;
    • Essential disrespect for others, their individuality, their dignity, their feelings, the only concern being their subordination;
    • Great differences as to degree of destructive elements involved;
    • Indiscriminate adoration of strength and contempt for weakness;
    • Dread of uncontrollable situations;
    • Dread of helplessness.


    4a. The neurotic need to control self and others through reason and foresight (a variety of 4 in people who are too inhibited to exert power directly and openly):


    • Belief in the omnipotence of intelligence and reason;
    • Denial of the power of emotional forces and contempt for them;
    • Extreme value placed on foresight and prediction;
    • Feelings of superiority over others related to the faculty of foresight;
    • Contempt for everything within self that lags behind the image of intellectual superiority;
    • Dread of recognizing objective limitations of the power of reason;
    • Dread of "stupidity" and bad judgment.


    4b. The neurotic need to believe in the omnipotence of will (to use a somewhat ambiguous term, an introvert variety of 4 in highly detached people to whom a direct exertion of power means too much contact with others):


    • Feelings of fortitude gained from the belief in the magic power of will (like possession of a wishing ring);
    • Reaction of desolation to any frustration of wishes;
    • Tendency to relinquish or restrict wishes and to withdraw interest because of a dread of "failure";
    • Dread of recognizing any limitation of sheer will.

    5. The neurotic need to exploit others and by hook or crook get the better of them:


    • Others evaluated primarily according to whether or not they can be exploited or made use of;
    • Various foci of exploitation--money (bargaining amounts to a passion), ideas, sexuality, feelings;
    • Pride in exploitative skill;
    • Dread of being exploited and thus of being "stupid."


    6. The neurotic need for social recognition or prestige (may or may not be combined with a craving for power):


    • All things--inanimate objects, money, persons, one's own qualities, activities, and feelings--evaluated only according to their prestige value;
    • Self-evaluation entirely dependent on nature of public acceptance;
    • Differences as to use of traditional or rebellious ways of inciting envy or admiration;
    • Dread of losing caste ("humiliation"), whether through external circumstances or through factors from within.


    7. The neurotic need for personal admiration:


    • Inflated image of self (narcissism);
    • Need to be admired not for what one possesses or presents in the public eye but for the imagined self;
    • Self-evaluation dependent on living up to this image and on admiration of it by others;
    • Dread of losing admiration ("humiliation").


    8. The neurotic ambition for personal achievement:


    • Need to surpass others not through what one presents or is but through one's activities;
    • Self-evaluation dependent on being the very best--lover, sportsman, writer, worker--particularly in one's own mind, recognition by others being vital too, however, and its absence resented;
    • Admixture of destructive tendencies (toward the defeat of others) never lacking but varying in intensity;
    • Relentless driving of self to greater achievements, though with pervasive anxiety;
    • Dread of failure ("humiliation").


    9. The neurotic need for self-sufficiency and independence:


    • Necessity never to need anybody, or to yield to any influence, or to be tied down to anything, any closeness involving the danger of enslavement;
    • Distance and separateness the only source of security;
    • Dread of needing others, of ties, of closeness, of love.


    10. The neurotic need for perfection and unassailability (see New Ways in Psychoanalysis, Chapter 13, on the super-ego, and Escape from Freedom, Chapter 5, on automaton conformity):


    • Relentless driving for perfection;
    • Rumination and self-recriminations regarding possible flaws;
    • Feelings of superiority over others because of being perfect;
    • Dread of finding flaws within self or of making mistakes;
    • Dread of criticism or reproaches.


    http://www.ptypes.com/neurotic_needs.html


    Correlations (N = Neurotic Need, E = Enneagram):

    N1 - 9w1, So/Sx
    N2 - Sx/Sp, Sx 6w7, Sx 4w3
    N3 - Sp/So, Sp 6w5, Sp 1
    N4 - E8, So 5 (4a), So 4w5 (4b)
    N5 - Sp 7w8, Sp 8, Sp/Sx 3
    N6 - 3w4, So 4
    N7 - 3w4 and Sp-last or So/Sp
    N8 - So/Sp, So 1, 3, 4 ("fantasy self")
    N9 - Sp/Sx 5, Sp/Sx 9
    N10 - E1


    Notice this also explains the tritypes and instincts you just don't see (like how I've never seen anyone self-type or be typed by others as 2-7-1 tritype, even though 2-6-1 is extremely common).

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    Pretty good insights! Thanks for posting.

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