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    About the cold/warm topic - the fervor of SO/SP and SP/SO just comes out differently in other areas yes. SX practices are eschewed in an unconscious or insecure way. For instance, when you're out there talking for/to the people and sparking a movement like MLK (SO/SP), you have no time, capacity, and nerve for dim light chamber passions with a spouse. You'd rather rest and recharge to regain strength when you come home (SP). So it's the neglect and absolutely essential use of secondary SP or SO (for SP/SO) that can drive SX stackings nuts when involved with sexual lasts.

    What I would mention is that SP isn't entirely unimportant in intimacy. While SX generates the chemistry, charisma, and all the mating efforts or skills, self-preservation is still reproduction and making sure one's body feels attended to. No doubt SP/SO can accommodate in many erotic ways, especially as a sensing type. There's quite an earthy appeal in that for romance and lust, while in friendships they can show the utmost care that SX could never demonstrate as the latter will look to get under another person's skin instead. SX can backfire very quickly while SP may really make it work. Combined with the social instinct that looks for the intent in another, it blends quite nicely. That is to say, SO/SP and SP/SO don't really play games which can be very enjoyable.

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    In this post they described so/sx this way:

    so/sx - The World of Humans - multichannel communication and attraction, the festival of the four corners of the earth

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    So/sx Human realm: humans suffer from hunger, thirst, heat, cold, separation from friends, being attacked by enemies, not getting what they want, and getting what they don't want. They also suffer from the general sufferings of birth, old age, sickness and death. Yet the human realm is considered to be the most suitable realm for practicing the dharma, because humans are not completely distracted by pleasure (like the gods or demi-gods) or by pain and suffering (like the beings in the lower realms).

    I also think that as @Chae mentioned the so/sx stacking is the most relatable.. we basically connect all the stackings with each other and appear the most 'human' in the way we approach life. I find it interesting how they said that 'humans' (here representating the so/sx stacking) are the most suitable to practice the dharma because they aren't distracted by the things the other stackings are.

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    I don't find that I am the most relatable, but I am also a Type 4, so nvm.
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    sp/sx 4
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    sp/sx 4
    That's like half of all members.

    P.S: I am being facetious if you can't tell... But seriously, a lot of people on here are Sp/Sx and 4 fix.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Medusa View Post
    I don't find that I am the most relatable, but I am also a Type 4, so nvm.
    I let myself be re-typed by other enneagram people here (plus VIing me). They believe I am a healthy 4w3 (that is very the ambitious part is coming from with the w3 they said) thus I relate a lot to e1 in a way. But the more I read about e4 and the more I looked back and many things I used to do in the past were indeed a similar pattern as described.. especially when I used to be unhealthier. I might have e1 in my tritype though, gotta look through it again.. but I definitely don't have the same tritype as you, Aylen and Starfall so far.

    No matter the e4 thing though I definitely can relate to anyone and everyone if I want to and so does my so/sx mother. I also always had at least 1-2 friends from whom I could base my social interactions on. I have a somewhat bouncy ball vibe to me as soon as I am amped up through social interaction.. very fiery and bouncy in my interactions in general, somewhat hyper almost. Social interaction and appreciation can feel like a blood-rush for me. I can also be very flirty with people I feel comfortable with.

    I also somewhat relate to the "best friend" role of the so/sx.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Medusa View Post
    That's like half of all members.

    P.S: I am being facetious if you can't tell... But seriously, a lot of people on here are Sp/Sx and 4 fix.
    The OP was not very specific either.

    P.S: I couldn't tell.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chae View Post
    Great

    I would suggest SP/SX as the ice queen for that very reason: self-occupied and filtering people through SX: "too busy with myself to deal with peasantry (that I'm not even half aware of) - but this one's interesting, I like them. Gotta let them in for once, it helps my well-being". Take Harrison Ford as an example. I do see how they don't do it on purpose, but the ice is coming through you know, they come across like it. SO/SP's filter is their secondary instinct which stops what the social instinct first adapts to. Like the Hillary Clinton method. Yeah yeah smile at everything all social issues are important I advocate for you all I'm the beacon of society... but ba-boom, here is where I draw the line for myself. The exclusion doesn't occur until a certain point. SO/SX yes, that's precise.
    With me it depends with the exclusion thing.. I am not as well meaning as my mother who really seems to be including with everyone.. but my IEI so/sp friend seems to be fairer with people in general, more including.. everything seems very balanced.. problem is.. you don't feel any special feelings/positions which can be very hurtful when you thought you were closer but you are just treated like everyone else.. maybe even less well.

    I've excluded people I really didn't like or who did something shitty to me. But Beta might be less chill about this stuff than Alpha.

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    This isn't really going to help our case in terms of being the "haughty/icy" instinctual subtype, but... Other So/Sp's, honestly. It's nice to have people who just get me. The similar priorities make communication smoother and happier.

    I also like Sp/So for their similar lack of interest in Sx, and I like So/Sx for their energy and similar interest in So, though sometimes I still feel like the Sx secondary is "too much". Sx combo'ed with Sp is interesting to me, they're a bit less exhausting than Sx + So but I'm not sure we really approve of each other deep down, especially from their end.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stellafera View Post
    This isn't really going to help our case in terms of being the "haughty/icy" instinctual subtype, but... Other So/Sp's, honestly. It's nice to have people who just get me. The similar priorities make communication smoother and happier.

    I also like Sp/So for their similar lack of interest in Sx, and I like So/Sx for their energy and similar interest in So, though sometimes I still feel like the Sx secondary is "too much". Sx combo'ed with Sp is interesting to me, they're a bit less exhausting than Sx + So but I'm not sure we really approve of each other deep down, especially from their end.
    I think sx lasts often end up with each other, it's not weird at all. Sx with sx isn't uncommon either but I notice it a lot more with sx last. Maybe they are just more likely to go with someone who understands them and supports their needs rather than trying for someone who is totally different despite any odds which sx will do.
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    the dysfunctional broken edgelord stackings who destroy stuff


    (fyi this post is unironic)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alioth View Post
    the dysfunctional broken edgelord stackings who destroy stuff


    (fyi this post is unironic)
    There isn't one of those, just dharma, sex, and farmers. Enneagram is unfortunately not that cool.

    So/Sx = Bollywood
    Sx/So = Marilyn Monroe
    Sp/So = Amelia Bedelia
    So/Sp = MLK
    Sx/Sp = Fleetwood Mac
    Sp/Sx = Tentacle porn

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vespertine View Post
    I've clashed with sp-lasts because of my tendency towards stubborn circumspection...
    I think everyone does that and some people just care more about other things, even if they're stupid things to care about.

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    Sp-last is probably just something like Death Before Dishonor in real life. I mean there's no one so unconcerned about their life they're just going to run straight through traffic. It's just favoring the social stuff before physical (and private mental/emotional? this is not clear in enneagram theory, which is why I can't take it seriously) existence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wyrd View Post
    Sp-last is probably just something like Death Before Dishonor in real life. I mean there's no one so unconcerned about their life they're just going to run straight through traffic. It's just favoring the social stuff before physical (and private mental/emotional? this is not clear in enneagram theory, which is why I can't take it seriously) existence.
    sp-last is not seeking death. it's a survival strategy as well. (except in unhealthy, self-destructive versions, but these probably apply to every stacking.) and might be even geared towards survival of a bigger social unit (including the self) rather than just the immediate self. (e.g. in so/sx, sx/so is more radical in its expression, i think)

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    Ya well. I think everyone just has their own images and experiences tied towards certain concepts.

    You know people, where I grew up, who also took care.

    Story time. Around January or February, you know when the snow is this muddy gray, I forgot my keys and stood outside all like OMG, FUCK NO, P-L-E-A-H-S-E. So I was lounging around, waiting for my parents to come home. From the other side I see someone waving from the other building and from the distance it looked like a man. I’m all like ‘Nah… I’ve seen it on the news’ and run to the backside of the house. So some time later an old lady approaches me and asks me ‘Have you forgotten your keys? I live on the other side and you don’t have to stand outside the cold, you can come in.’ And I’m like 'I want to call someone'. She was ok with it and we went to her flat, were I could sit on the couch and watch TV with her husband. It was very warm and comfy and he was like ‘we always watch from here, when your dad parks the van and everything and we are always very impressed’. And I was telling him how I thought his wife looked like a man from afar and that was why I was hiding and he started to laugh really loud and said to his wife ‘Well here you can hear, how you look like’ and she waved it off. We were watching this cooking show and the guy said sth. about TVs with smell in the future and her husband was repeating it to her and chuckled about it. She was knitting these kinda loafers and when I was going home she gave them to me.

    In retrospect could have also been the end of me.

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    Sx secondary. No not sp sx or so sx... just sx secondary


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    I'm usually most attracted to guys with my own stack. I haven't dated anyone with the same stack, but the closest one was sp/sx and he was the one I got along with best. I'm open to future relationships showing me differently, but so far I'm of the opinion that sharing the same stack is what's best for me. Looks like a lot of people want different stacks from their own on here That's interesting! Different from a lot of the enneagram advice

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    Sx/Sp, Sx/So, Sp/Sx.

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    sp/sx but not the “I’m special and better than you” asshole variety
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    Mine. Too much self-loathing on this thread.
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    Kautherine Fauvre, in one of her youtube interviews (I'm looking for it), said that in her research examining hundreds of couples over the years, the ones that build the most stable and long-term relationships are those that have the same two primary instincts, preferably in the same order. SP is not a necessary element for marriage and family -- just consider one of the most beloved couples in Hollywood: Chris Hemsworth (8 SX/SO) and Elsa Pataky (2 SX/SO). Tritype can also matter. The more types a couple had in common, the more stability due to mutual understanding.

    What's most important, however, is that each person in the couple is healthy. But even then, it's more work to bridge those gaps of understanding.

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