Quote Originally Posted by paranoid View Post
ime it's usually Ne-egos who have specific (even obscure) preferences wrt physical appearances, whereas Si-egos are drawn to wacky and witty infantile behavior, which would equate to the Ne-ego's "personality" ("i may not shower, but look what i can do!" [does a handstand and falls off the pier]) on top of that, intuitives tend to emanate an aura of "exclusivity".
I've seen this particularly with alphas, and to an extent ...... say, anne of green gables type IEEs.

I find myself more so drawn to ethereal or other-worldly , natures, rather than that OMG CRAZY UNIQUE BIZARREE stuff. I have seen that though - especially in my SEI friend. He loves atypical women (even though he wants a traditional marriage ultimately), which is a tough deal for him. He knows about nerdy ILE and NT women and likes them quite a bit, but many of them don't want what he wants, at this time.

Eccentricity itself isn't a turn on for me. There is a post/article something somewhere, about love types, and I do relate to pragma first eros second. But perhaps eccentricity in terms of a higher-than-normal relational or moral focus, maybe. I find aspiration or even some level of idealism in that realm appealing, there's an underlying sense of growth and progress or something to aim for, there.

I think that's why I ultimately find ESIs boring, because everything is so much more face-value, all the time. It's not that I don't value that - it's more, I am that way myself, so I don't feel they add anything to it. The alpha SFs are similarly this way, but more sort of just feel more.... superficial-happy idk. That's personal preferences to discuss elsewhere . Perhaps a better term is more ambition as an eccentricity, although it has to be more enlightened than dogmatic.


I think Si egos are perhaps more able to see past some of the superficial presentation of things, some to an extent being drawn to peopl with poor presentations due to their own low self esteem or uncertainty, IMO and IME. Which is ironic sense they are also sometimes super picky about their preesntation or cleanliness. But I suppose that dynamic happens with Se egos and their victim counterparts, too, regarding "Se Stuff"