This is tough
I'm sure @Minde can 'confirm' that she dosn't like being asked for advice and then having it disregarded
Myself - sometimes I ask for advice from people simply to get a feel for things or their perspective - and it isn't really a matter of changing my opinion or perspective
or even if they are just in a state where they are feeling their sense of self is linked to the advice they want even if they know they want an outside perspective
more immature versions of myself and people like me will say or act in very personally subjective and petty ways -- that's how it goes
They just wont' want to hear different perspectives or ways they can see things differently often because it means a lot of their other assumptions are challenged too -- especially if they know that operation works really well for its intended purpose
Everyone and every type has things like this that they do - i think even you might find that a logical-dominant person might be more apt to take pride in their logic and an ethical person the same about their ethics ; people are open and closed in different ways
in short - to answer the first quoted question:
because they know they desire or want feedback but aren't ready to process how what you're saying affects their inner world or conceptualizations
I think this is - in the case of Te dominants - part of their weak Fi
a similar thing happens with 4d Fi people when they want information and ask for it but are stubborn about how they 'prefer' or 'feel' to see certain structures or mechanics
minds can be very petty and pouty when they are not groomed or given the right attention
or simply when someone thinks their sense of self is on the line - even if they know they want outside perspective



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