I would love your advice on how best to communicate with an LSI.
I am in a LTR with an LSI. When we met we were much younger and I think he found me entertaining- we are little older now.
Part of the communication issue is that the LSI thinks I get bored easily and want to make changes to our lives. This is true I do get bored easily.
He seeks stability and planning for the future -it is a big deal to him. I try to respect that the best I can but sometimes I can't help myself and want to have conversations about things "we could do" for fun. I don't always intend to follow through with them.
I like to talk about random possibilities out of boredom and curiosity. Why not imagine, or even try them?
Why must we limit ourselves?
Me: "Let's rent our house and move 15 miles south to the country and rent a farm. We could have room for rescue animals."
LSI: *Looks stressed.* "But we just moved into this house two years ago".
Then today I mentioned how I was bored of my car of 6 years and wanted a different one. The LSI asked why do you need a different one, what is wrong with your current car. Of course nothing is wrong with my car I just want something different (a jeep-I've never had a jeep before).
He wants a logical reason for the car switch. I can't provide that.
Me: "When I am done this grad program, I am going to get an MA in Art Therapy".
Him: "So what's the plan with that?"
Me: "No plan, I can probably teach while in school so the tuition will be partially-free and it will be fun."
Him: "What are you going to do with that degree-how will it help you professionally?"
Me: "Probably nothing-it just looks very interesting."
He seems to want things to be stable, consistent and working toward a fixed goal or plan.
I feel like its an Ni vs Ne conflict.