Hey guys, new here. This is my first post and I have registered here in order to settle a confusion that has lasted for nearly three years. I seem to be unable to settle on a type for long. One thing that I am almost certain of is the fact that I am on the Ni/Se axis. I am going to keep this short, as there are quite a few questions to answer and by doing so I think that I'll hold your attention on the most important aspects.
Tell me about yourself.
Well, how do I start this. I think it is relevant to say that I find it hard to talk about myself in general terms. Specific questions I have no problem to answer. I am an intuitive person, quite empathetic, intelligent and goal-oriented. One problem that I have is with procrastination, but I always finish the task. For this reason I am able to maintain in the 10% of my class in college. I think a relevant addition here would be an occurence from my childhood. A teacher was telling a mithical story and I was running the story through my mind, seeing the events from the perspective of the characters. This led to me starting to cry because I was seeing the drama of the characters in front of my eyes, so to speak. I feel kinda embarassed to talk about things like this, but I do for the purpose of this thread.
What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
I study law. I came to do this because I thought the law field matched my personality, and for the posibilities that can arise from being a lawyer afterwards. I like to study certain fields, like Civil law and International law, along with the competitive aspect that arises from different contests in college. I dislike the dogmatism that some teachers manifest.
What are your values, and why?
This is a problematic question for me. I feel like I am not sufficiently aware of myself to answer these kind of questions with certainty. I value strength, self-discipline, emotional control, kindness, rationality. Because I think these fit with the ideal that I set for myself to achieve.
What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
Besides being occupied with law school, I got involved in a year-long contest. So that occupies most of my free time. Aside from that, I study psychology and religions. I like to drive very much. I love the rush that comes with driving at a high speed. Also driving at night with music playing. I feel like I get in a meditative state in these moments. Ni/Se, maybe. Also reading books, watching either pure action movies like Mad Max, or intellectual movies like Cloud Atlas. I would like to try sky-diving. I like both to the same degree, as both provide something of equal value to me. One stimulates my need for rush, the other my intellectual needs.
Describe your relations with family and friends. What do you like and dislike about them?
My relations with my family and friends are a bit distant. I like that fact that I can always rely on their support. I kinda dislike that we are somewhat distant, to be frank.
What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships?
In friends I look for loyalty, intelligence, a bit of a wild side, the ability to have fun when the situation arises. I find that regarding my intellectual needs I can satisfy myself for the most part, so in friends I am mostly looking for someone that is able to have a good time with me. In romantic relations there can't be a compromise between the intellectual and the physical. I need a balance, so my partner needs to be both someone with who I can have an intellectual conversation, and someone with who I can have fun. Physical attraction is a must.
What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
Recently with a friend. I didn't think of him when I smoked somewhere in the house. These kind of conflicts, about not thinking about others needs, seem to arise on a regular basis. Not calling my family enough, not complimenting my girl enough.
How would your friends describe you?
Calm, reliable, logical, strong. My friends don't know my empathetic side. For better or worse, I hide that for fear of looking weak. I hate losing emotional control. Sometimes though my emotions get so high that I can't hold back.
What do people generally see as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
The qualities that I described abouve. The fact that I am able to strive for self-actualization, for the image that I hold of myself in my mind.
What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
I can be extremely stubborn. Indecisive if I don't have objective facts on which to make a decision. The tendency to get annoyed when people work on a task too slow. Kinda shy, but people don't see that as I hide it. Criticism related to the fact that I don't think about them, even though that is not necessarly true. I dislike about myself my shyness and occasional indecisiveness.
In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
Studying, intellectual pursuits. Help in taking initiative more often in relations and building those in the long term. Also in household tasks. I procrastinate on cleaning.
What things do you find to be a chore? What things do you enjoy more than others?
Household tasks, paying bills. I enjoy more than others the feeling of adrenaline rushing through my body in risky situations. Also I enjoy intellectual pursuits more that most people. Though most people don't always see this side of myself because I keep relations with them on a mostly superficial level.
What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future? How did you come to have them?
Finish law school in the top 5%. Find a high level job at a law firm. Take more initiative in relations. I came to have them based on the future that I envision for myself as a person.
If you had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life without working, what would you do with your time?
Try to experience as many things as possible that life has to offer. Hardships and bliss.
What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
Well, in the opposite sex, the capacity to seduce. Same sex, being frank. Excessive and superficial smiling.
What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)? What do you think of daily chores?
Avoid clutter, harmonize colours. Hate them for the most part.
How do you behave around strangers?
Some would see me as kind of hostile, distant. Until someone enters my circle, I don't show much affection.
How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
Rationally. I try to find if there is a valid reason for the conflict. If there is, resolve that. If there isn't, make it clear. If necessary, react the same.
What is one common misconception that people have? Explain why it is wrong.
About me? That I lack feelings. The level of sentiment that I can reach is deeper than most people could ever imagine me reaching. But I hide it to not appear weak.
What did you do last Friday?
Went to the mall with a friend.
What is your biggest accomplishment?
Finishing first in my class last semester.
What is something you regret?
Hesitating in owning some of my decisions.
Who do you admire, and why?
Real example, or qualities in a person? David Lynch. He's a genius, seems very deep.
What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
Lack of motivation. Always needing a purpose to do something. Procrastination.
What are your religious or spiritual beliefs and why do you hold them?
My beliefs are in flux. I find it hard to believe in something without a bulletproof reasoning. Which is why I am not really religious or spiritual. Despite this, I try to bipass my intellect and just do things that would be considered spiritual to lead me to that path, even though my mind might find it absurd.
What are your political beliefs, and why? To what extent do you care about politics?
I hold mostly conservative beliefs. I used to have more liberal beliefs, but I think that some limits to certain freedoms must exist. More involved in politics than the average person.
Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
Yes. In order to develop myself and for the financiary gain. CEO. Law related.
What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
Clear delimitation of tasks. Friendly colleagues. I look for the prospect of advancement.
What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
Civil law. It is not black and white.
How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
I hold it in high regard. I keep my promises. I expect the same.
Where did you go on your most recent vacation? What did you do there? How did you like it and why?
Italy. Visiting and partying. Loved the atmosphere, especially at night. It felt...mysterious, passionate, meditative.
What were you like as a kid? How have you changed since you were a child?
Very active in sports. Talented at all kinds of sports. Intellectual, less control of my emotional response. Very deep emotions. More shy, more introverted, less confident. Changed by becoming substantially more confident. Still talented at all kinds of sports, but less involved in them.
What was your high school experience like?
Boring for the most part. Much better in college. I was too reclusive and shy in high school.
Talk about a significant event from your life.
Recent break-up. Had to face my naked self and answer some unpleasant questions regarding myself.
Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Yes. Because they naive and sincere. Kinda like small animals. For the most part.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
Assure the respect of my kid. That he got involved in intelligent hobbies, like chess. Also that he got involved in sports, team sports especially. Guide him to those. In order for him to become a well-rounded individual.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Yes, regarding socionics actually. Going back and forth between INxp, ENxj, considering ESTp, even ENFp. The causes revolve around the fact that I can entertain in my mind every posibility, to some extent. My reaction to it is to research the crap out of it and to become frustrated.
How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
I see people as a whole as interesting. Well...I think that uniformity in people, the need to conform to superficial common interests, would be a problem.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
Try to get what I want. Insist.
Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
Yes. In competitions regarding law school, for example. I love getting the whole team around a common purpose, organizing the weak spots and maximizing the strong spots of the team.
How often do you get angry? What kinds of things make you angry?
Funny. I get angry at the fact that I get anxious. Probably enneagram 6 related. Besides my anxiety: a condescending tone. I hate this. Also people that convey themselves as pitiful, as victims. Hate them also.
What is the best thing that happened to you during the past week?
Got accepted for an internship that I wanted badly.
What is the worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
Can't think of anything significant.
What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
I believe there are numerous paths on which one can walk in life. However, what I find to be meaningful, and what I think every individual wants, is to find self-actualisation. To become the best version of you that you can become.
What is the most interesting place you have been, and why?
A hotel in France. Had the opportunity to meet some very interesting people. The atmosphere was almost spiritual.
How do you dress or manage your appearance?
I dress very well. I have an innate ability to sort out aesthetics. This includes clothes and general looks.
Do you like surprises?
I would tend towards saying no.
Is there anything else important about you that we should know?
I believe this covers it.
Well, those were a lot of questions. I would be very grateful for your help. Seeing as I seem unable to find a type and settle on it for long, I would appreciate a discussion as it would help me clarify my thoughts. I find that by speaking some things become more clear to me.
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*praise praise* You are very interesting. I'll stick around here. So far, first impression-wise, I think you're a Gamma type. If we can rely on Se/Ni being your values already, I got
right away at the start and above is some
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daily life - dressing excluded - or
sentiment control realm. I mean, getting in a fight over cigarette smoke!
ego: goals and future are set, but there's hesitation, procrastination, lack of forceful initiation.
ego dual is needed. That has to be ESI to back up for the values part as well, and closing the distance in the relationship. Appreciated were: Friendly colleagues, dogmatic beliefs, conservativism, tact, and self-respect: all ESI.
literally ALL OVER EVERYTHING (red above, the irony). Never heard of an LSI who talks about taking chances and possibilities and whatnot in their career.
