The "Gray Rock" Method

[Milo]

Has anyone heard of this? This is supposed to be a great way for dealing with any abusers, stalkers, narcissists, and sociopaths who try to do anything possible to keep in your center of attention and keep pulling your strings. This was shared in one of psychology support groups for a woman whose boyfriend sent her a diamond ring, asking her to marry on the same month and close to the date that his other girlfriend is expected to be delivering his baby.


"When dealing with malignant narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, borderlines, drama queens, stalkers and other emotional vampires, it’s commonly advised that no response is the best response to unwanted attention. This is often true and No Contact (the avoidance of all communication) should be used whenever possible.

There are some situations however, when No Contact is not feasible, as in when you share child custody with a psychopath. As another example, if you are being stalked by an ex, a restraining order can infuriate the unwanted suitor, and refusing to respond to him or her is seen as an insult. They might become convinced that they can MAKE you respond and in that way satiate their need for power over you.

Furthermore, many of us have tried to end a relationship with a psychopath several times, only to take them back, each time. They turned on the pity ploy and the charm, and because we didn’t understand that this is what a psychopath does, we fell for their promises to change. They know all of our emotional hooks. For them, it’s easy and fun to lure us back by appealing to our emotions. But a psychopath can’t change. In fact, when you leave a psychopath, he becomes determined to punish you even more severely for thinking you could be autonomous. ..."

https://lovefraud.com/the-gray-rock-...h-psychopaths/

[Pole]

Hell yeah I know ALL about this method, there isn't a narc buzzword that you can throw at me that I don't already know all about. For 3 years I've been doing my own studies on this to cope with some destructive people I've been involved with in the past.

[Singu]

I have heard that before. You become as dull and boring as possible so that they won't even want to engage with you.

[ouronis]

What if they just start to do extreme shit to get a reaction like trying to fuck up your life or physically abusing you?

[Pole]

^That's when it's time to go beyond the gray rock method and go straight to "No Contact".
*disclaimer: I'm well aware that separated couples who co-parent have a harder time with this one. Shush I know.