Plot Twist:
I'm really an ESE.
No but I'm really confused. So I think it's safe to say I'm between IEE and EIE. Not sure why/how there is no consensus because they are such different types. (I love ESEs I just am so not one)
Here's a link to photos of me and my boyfriend: https://goo.gl/photos/QK15GG1anBc3aA4d6
I added more bc the more info the easier it should be.....hopefully. Lol
I already did a questionnaire and all of my answers are basically the same. I can do a video later if it helps! I'll have to do it tomorrow because I'm in the middle of finals at school right now.
I would add my boyfriend in the video but he's pretty adamantly against typing and would not take it seriously.
Questionnaire:
Tell me about yourself?
I study studio art and philosophy. I am always drawn to the idea of subjects and I want to have my hands in everything. I get frustrated, though, as I drop them fairly quickly after the reality sinks in. I am not good with follow through, not at all. I love every subject until I have to learn details about it, then my brain kind of just shuts off and i tell myself that something else may be more interesting. I am very content to get the "point" of everything and don't really have much of an interest in getting more than the gist.
What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
I am currently working at a library. I am a student as I stated earlier, so this is just a job to get me by so I can buy fun stuff for myself lol.
What are your values, and why?
I want people to be themselves and to be honest. I value altruism. I value doing what you truly desire and to be given the freedom to do so. I think living align to your authentic self is the most important thing unless it harms others; I believe that when we do that, we are able to make true progress.
What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
I go to school, prepare food ( I try to be healthy but I fail miserably) and I watch a lot of shows in between to escape from all of the monotony. Sometime I go to work, sometimes not. Sometimes I'll go out to a bar with friends, sometimes not.
What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships?
I treat friendships and romantic relationships the same and am often really guarded and protective of myself until I know I can trust them. I wish I were more open sometimes but I'm not. There is a huge difference between how I act with a person I trust and a person I don't. ( I mean this can be said for practically anyone but still)
I look for honesty and openness. I appreciate people that make me feel welcome and like my presence is appreciated. I look for patient people that are willing to listen and try to understand where I'm coming from. I look for people that say what they mean and mean what they say. I enjoy being around people that enjoy life and can make small, everyday things an adventure. I enjoy playfulness and people that can laugh at themselves. I look for people that can hold an intellectual conversation and are willing to go wherever the conversation takes them.
What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
Can't remember, honestly. I really avoid conflict if I can. All of my conflicts are pretty much inner-conflicts lol. What happens on a regular basis is I'm doing dishes for my roommate because she never does them or I'm trying to do something to help others but I'm also really bad at explaining myself so people get confused at what I'm doing and usually get frustrated with me because I do everything in a roundabout way.
How would your friends describe you?
My friends would describe me as the one that wants to ask abstract questions always or turns everything into a philosophical problem. I think they are always annoyed by it lol. They also would probably say I'm bubbly and always the goofy-one. This is when I trust you, though. I like being the one that people poke fun at (playfully of course).
What do people generally see as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
I am calculated and know really well how to create situations out of thin air. I can plant seeds wherever I go and tell someone something that I know will eventually create something weeks later. I also can get along with a lot of different types of people, if I choose to engage. I like that I am able to think deeply about things. I like that I am good at dealing with people on a personal basis.
What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
I would love to be more outspoken. I have many thoughts I hold back and I am terrified that I will never share all of the thoughts I want to share.
I am always told that I need to stick up for myself more. I need to be more assertive. I need to be more confident, etc. Blech fuck that who needs confidence
In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
I need help taking care of myself. I NEED it. I get too lazy to do shit and often need deadlines to actually get anything done.
I can manage people well. I am good at getting along with people but I'm never a good manager because I can never be the superior or the one to implement structure. I don't like telling people what to do, I'd rather get to know them and be friends with them.
What things do you find to be a chore? What things do you enjoy more than others?
Cooking is always a chore. Cleaning my room. Daily maintenance. I am lazy with self-care as well (sorry if that's TMI).
I enjoy escaping with shows and talking to people about interestingish things.
What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future? How did you come to have them?
I want to have a job that makes me happy and satisfied (meaning it's challenging and doesn't bore me over time).
I want to be in a meaningful relationship; I don't care about marriage but I do want kids. I want simplicity. I have pretty much always had these priorities.
If you had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life without working, what would you do with your time?
I'd take a boyfriend to far away places and travel. I would ideally move so I could be apart of many different organizations and spend my life helping people in some way.
What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
I enjoy people that are oblivious to social cues or are honest and awkward. I hate aggression. I never take abrasive language well.
What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)? What do you think of daily chores?
I buy things, like I have wall hangings and a house plant. I don't keep up with it well, though. I suck at chores. I do things outside my room to keep the common space tidy but my room is a shit-show.
How do you behave around strangers?
I give what you give. I will always mirror what is given to me. Rarely will I feel comfortable enough to just talk and not consider the person I am talking to.
How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
I close up. I get quiet and retreat to my room or take a walk. I don't like open conflict and don't deal with it well.
What is one common misconception that people have? Explain why it is wrong.
I don't believe I have the right to tell anyone that their beliefs are wrong?
What did you do last Friday?
I went out to a bar with my friend.
If you are doing a video you can stop here and/or choose from the rest of the questions as you like.
What is your biggest accomplishment?
Nothing, lol I'm just living in this work in progress.
What is something you regret?
I always put my foot in my mouth and have bad timing. I usually don't say truly hurtful things that would damage a person. I've done stupid small things that I regret like saying that a Policeman is probably going to get donuts nearby his car. lolol
Who do you admire, and why?
I admire people that have confidence in their convictions and have the ability to let people know they want something. I am pretty cowardly about things.
What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
I perpetually worried that I am a screw up. I don't think that I have the presence to create my own life the way I want it to be. I quit things too often (jobs, projects) and want to stick with something and have the courage to genuinely try and fail.
What are your religious or spiritual beliefs and why do you hold them?
I am interested in spirituality of all kinds. I don't think I have any clear-cut beliefs about it, though.
What are your political beliefs, and why? To what extent do you care about politics?
I am as liberal as it gets. I care about politics but I'm not out protesting anywhere even though my country is shit right now.
Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
I hope to be my own boss eventually. Not sure about any of it. I'll let ya know in a few years.
What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
Calm environments that aren't rule-oriented or overly structured. I look for friendly people.
What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
I have always liked studio art growing up.
How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
I don't enjoy having too much responsibility on my hands. I would rather someone tell me what to do. I expect that people do what they know they are supposed to do, it's not that hard to get things done.
Where did you go on your most recent vacation? What did you do there? How did you like it and why?
I went somewhere relatively local for a few days. Went antiquing and just observed the area by walking around. I like seeing new environments, it always gives me a fresh perspective.
What were you like as a kid? How have you changed since you were a child?
I used to be much more emotionally open. I have closed off a lot because people used to always call me sensitive. I used to be 10000x more vulnerable. I also feel like I've developed a stronger sense of individuality and independence. i was a fairly rebellious kid and I am more complacent now.
What was your high school experience like?
Ew.
Talk about a significant event from your life.
I ditched a friend group that was completely toxic because they made fun of me for being quirky behind my back.
First time I realized that they were literally threatened by me being different. Decided then and there to align with who I am as much as possible with people because I have nothing to be ashamed of just because I have a weird sense of humor and don't act like a complete follower.
Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Yes, because they are wonderful and inspiring.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I want them to realize that they are accepted for who they are. I was always told that my interests were boring and that I analyzed things too much. I want them to know that their thoughts and feelings are always valid.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
I feel stuck when I am stagnant and not learning anything new from a situation. I usually drop it then. Or I go find new information.
How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
People are all made up of different interesting variables that we can bring to the table. I consider it a social problem to not accept someone because they are slightly different. I find most people shallow.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
I usually change the situation so it's a compromise or I change my mindset.
Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
Meh, I'd rather not. I'm too laid back.
How often do you get angry? What kinds of things make you angry?
I get angry when people are intolerant of me and other people. I do not get angry, often though. I am almost never situationally angry, it is more of a color I see in everything when I am in that state of mind.
What is the best thing that happened to you during the past week?
I started classes again so I'm busy again and it's nice.
What is the worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
Nada
What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
The purpose of life is to contribute to other lives. Be better than those that came before you. Learn and love everything. Don't be a hog and actually give when you can.
What is the most interesting place you have been, and why?
I loved Sweden and I loved the cities outside of stockholm. I love swedish culture. The environment is beautiful and so are the people.
How do you dress or manage your appearance?
I am extremely inconsistent. I dress either extremely well or look like a complete bum.
Do you like surprises?
Yes! But I also like boundaries. (I wish I was good at putting them down)
Is there anything else important about you that we should know?
I often feel like I don't have the ability to pull out facts like everyone else can. When I am put on the spot I freak out and can only concentrate on the fact that I am under pressure. I am not calm internally. I like to have my ideas prepared. I like to have solitary time to prepare myself for things. I get nervous easily. I dont like doing things 100% on the fly.
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You too! Meetups should be a way more common thing in this forum!
seems to be more accepted and needed than 
, you say you need care over aggression, were told to stand up for yourself, take responsibility, but you don't care. You care about comfort and help in daily life matters more? That would match you being laid-back. "I don't like open conflict and don't deal with it well" was also devalued 
PoLR for anti-structure, anti-rule, anti-consistency? 4D 
was apparent with free expression and bubbly-ness, 
I saw in your thinking about ideas and being different, tolerance, changing your mindset.
Originally Posted by vertu
. I kept wondering what made me come back to him when he seemed to shut down a lot of the things I said/wanted to do. I took it really personally and retreated further into myself. This was also added to the fact that he made me more introverted bc we would hang out a lot inside and not experience new things (which killed me). I really morphed into him that first year. I was depressed and knew I wasn't happy so I would continuously try to break up with him and he just kept fighting for me. There was literally no reason I had to think that he enjoyed spending time with me because it would never show on his face and we weren't experiencing things together; so I got very caught up in this idea of what a relationship should be, yet he always went against it and seemed to just do what he wanted to do and I gave in to it. 
