Communication has dropped significantly over the last several days, so it all may be a moot point anyway.
No, I don't compartmentalize sex at all. A little while ago I had a guy demean me because I wasn't ready to kiss him yet and I had implied I might not be for awhile. He called me archaic and essentially rules-bound, but it wasn't about rules at all for me. I simply was not feeling safe or close enough to him. Plus he wasn't super attractive to me...
...of course now I'm going to be wracked with "what exactly pushed him away?!" Not the "you're archaic" guy, the Te-y guy.
Makes sense. Thank you! I can get all theoretical in my head, but it helps a ton to have real live person feedback.
What about encouraging / pushing for performances from your date? E.g. "You like to dance? Show me some moves!"



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