Blindspot instinct (non)exposure ?

[lemontrees]

I was musing on how, despite being very sp-last, my parents both have it in their stacking: I grew up being used to the idea that a certain person just shouldn't be bothered for hours at a time, but also w/ the feeling that this was sort of enforced or maybe a luxury, and now that my parents have a nice home it's sort of works as this place where each person can go into their particular nook for a while and do work or read or amuse themselves with videos or whatever, and if you want to interact you can but if you want to be alone it would never be taken personally.

I was surprised b/c I've been working in an office consistently for the first time, and my coworkers seem to take it personally if i don't want to have conversations, or if I want to eat lunch alone (mostly due to money/convenience/whatever). It usually has more to do with exhaustion than w/ them. my boss (whom i love) likes to keep things exciting in the office, so that no one gets bored... only, I don't mind just working, I'm much less tired when I get home. b/c i am quiet, my coworkers joke that i dislike them.

My boss repeatedly told me that i'm nice but quiet and not very forthcoming, so I actually asked him what his friends and family were like... he said that everyone is loud and participatory. It sort of reminded me of how... when I was a kid I was always acutely aware of being irresponsible/unfocused compared to my family, but later on I met sp-last people who'd grown in environments where it was considered unmaterialistic or living to the fullest to just do sp as little as possible, and they didn't really even have an awareness that this other part of life existed, which might be either good or bad. Not that sp-last people don't have to eat or make money, but there isn't as much...nuance (?) around those choices, it's more sort of... literal how it all gets carried out. My former roommate, when she met my sp/sx ex, thought that he was "really unique" because she rarely met someone who didn't immediately look up when a stranger entered the room (he was focusing on something on his computer). For my boss, the only reason he would not answer an email is if he didn't like a person, so when I forgot to answer an email from him once he took it as personal rejection.

Anyway, I wondered about...environment, and how weird (or not weird??) it might be to never be exposed to your blindspot instinct at all. Is it even possible?

[GuavaDrunk]

This is a really interesting topic but thinking about it makes me retype a couple of people, so I have nothing to add for now.