hmm yah maybe partly. in all serious i think it's both. you can be genuine, while finding the most effective way to present that genuineness. i think doing that is the goal of most ILIs i know (SLIs handle their Fi HA in a bit of a different way). but in my experience they don't always accomplish that. on the one hand they want to be and come across as genuinely as possible, but then on the other hand they have an awareness that a lot of other people are playing a "game", and they resent this but they take the minimum measures to make sure they aren't filtered out of it socially. yes i know the ILI type well hunty.
this from the Ti polr thread was victimy as hell btw



Reply With Quote