Everyone can use their strongest IE to control others. It is not Fe restricted

Quote Originally Posted by Bertrand View Post
that's interesting because I feel like Fe types are basically trying to control and regulate feelings almost by definition
Yes, Fe types can control feelings and emotions by definition, as you say. However, there is a difference between controlling all your emotions or just filtering the irrelevant emotions to make the environment better suited for the current task or meeting, etc. There is a difference between controlling and managing.

Quote Originally Posted by Singularity View Post
[...] Fe and Fe-valuing types typically don't like to be told how to feel, they see that feelings are something that should not be controlled or regulated. It makes sense, since their emotional states describe their own relation to others and others' relation to them, unlike Fi.
In these cases, maybe Fe types are trying to remove emotions that they perceive as fake or disturbing to their objective of allowing people to express their true emotions ? The other person may feel controlled by their Fe, but it doesn't contradict the fact that they are fostering the expression of true emotions.