While someone like LSE likes being told what to feel in convoluted ethical situations and yes I do tell LSE when to feel what. For example an lse will say "I feel bad because I feel like I'm walking away when they need me (referring to a job." In which case I remain more objective because I can compartment jobs from interpersonal relationships so I'll say "no you're not. You're not breaking up with them. You are seeking employment which will further your career goals and you may ask to return to that job once you've obtained the qualifications that you are seeking" anotherwords it's not personal and because LSEs make personal relationships the boundaries get crossed and feelings get convoluted and they can't separate them in their mind. I continue with "you are still friends with your coworkers and you have not burned bridges by acting impulsively and walking away without notice. You have kept your relationships in good standing so that should make you feel better about moving on to another job. After all you are being paid to perform a duty but I do understand that you have a partner and that you feel the need to support him and help carry the load."
The goal is to limit and control external reactions of negative feelings because those cause stress. I've seen it first hand in LSEs who cry over bad relationships and EII or even IEE are there to listen, comfort and to even ease them out of these states not to let them take on a deeper life. But we don't stop their expression we just are made more uncomfortable by them.
However, when let's say my sister expressed negative emotions at a positive happy event I tried to get her to calm down while my lse cousin (sitting next to me) told me to wait and let her talk about them because she was obviously upset.
Maybe just my sister comes off as a drama queen and it annoys me that she can turn everyone mood in one outcry




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