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    Quote Originally Posted by Singularity View Post
    @Maritsa

    For Fi and Fi-valuing types, relationships are mainly based on subjective rules, which are often imposed by Fi types. For Fe and Fe-valuing types, relationships are mainly based on how people feel about each other, they are less rule-bound and are more "organic". That's why Fe relationships tend to either "intensify" or "fizzle out", based on how each other are feeling. Like "We don't feel the same about each other anymore".

    From this, Fe and Fe-valuing types typically don't like to be told how to feel, they see that feelings are something that should not be controlled or regulated. It makes sense, since their emotional states describe their own relation to others and others' relation to them, unlike Fi.

    It's like these lyrics from "Love Story":
    While someone like LSE likes being told what to feel in convoluted ethical situations and yes I do tell LSE when to feel what. For example an lse will say "I feel bad because I feel like I'm walking away when they need me (referring to a job." In which case I remain more objective because I can compartment jobs from interpersonal relationships so I'll say "no you're not. You're not breaking up with them. You are seeking employment which will further your career goals and you may ask to return to that job once you've obtained the qualifications that you are seeking" anotherwords it's not personal and because LSEs make personal relationships the boundaries get crossed and feelings get convoluted and they can't separate them in their mind. I continue with "you are still friends with your coworkers and you have not burned bridges by acting impulsively and walking away without notice. You have kept your relationships in good standing so that should make you feel better about moving on to another job. After all you are being paid to perform a duty but I do understand that you have a partner and that you feel the need to support him and help carry the load."

    The goal is to limit and control external reactions of negative feelings because those cause stress. I've seen it first hand in LSEs who cry over bad relationships and EII or even IEE are there to listen, comfort and to even ease them out of these states not to let them take on a deeper life. But we don't stop their expression we just are made more uncomfortable by them.

    However, when let's say my sister expressed negative emotions at a positive happy event I tried to get her to calm down while my lse cousin (sitting next to me) told me to wait and let her talk about them because she was obviously upset.

    Maybe just my sister comes off as a drama queen and it annoys me that she can turn everyone mood in one outcry
    Last edited by Beautiful sky; 02-22-2017 at 05:30 PM.
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    Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
    Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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