Alot of people think I am social first or second and I can tell you I am not: (I have to put this colon here or it wouldn't read right... I wish I knew of some grammar tactic that could do this more aesthetically pleasingly

) considering having dominant So simply because of my social activity and willingness, I would be dead last for that, so if that's what people think I am then I am now sp/sx.
Why I do consider it is because I find comfort among people, and enjoy some sort of rapport or sense of oneness for any group I happen to be with. I love the idea of mutual dependence, making sure no one .. dies I guess.
But given what most people think of so instinct I don't know why I have to have it of all people.

I don't relate at all to mainstream social instinct, being actively involved in communities and making sure you're caught up with everyone you know, and always attending social events and being hip with all the news. I am extremely avoidant and dislike the inconvenience of talking to people i don't care about (and also forget to talk to people I do care about), which is most people. I am friendly to people who talk to me, but I don't go out of my way to have verbal sex with everyone, primarily because for someone like me it is not energy efficient and doesn't go anywhere for either of us. Which is why if someone finds interest in me then I trust their instinct that we could be of use to eachother, and happily agree to talk and maybe be friends, since I don't trust my own instinct for approaching anyone. Unrelated but this is also a reason why I am the opposite of having strong Fe/Fi according to alot of definitions.
Basically, when typing me, my type defaults to the lowest energy one. And it's a shame that So has to do all that work yet Sp does jack shit and therefore I default to sp. I relate much more to thinking patterns and less so behavioural definitions, since the latter usually vary in how much energy is used, while the former doesn't even discuss how much you do and just what is the reason behind what you do.