Quote Originally Posted by golden View Post
I have found people of all quadras controlling. Here are some things that qualify as controlling for me:

* Denying me my point of view
* Telling me how I feel, assuming you can understand that
* Setting up situations that serve your needs and not mine
* Treating me like an object
* Gaslighting
* Discouraging me from having friends
* Leaving me to do all the grunt work
* Mansplaining or any kind of condescension
* Lying about me
* Lying to me (following a pattern of deceit)
* Nickel-and-diming me
* Trying to impose rigid gender roles on me
* Spreading false information about me
* Making unilateral decisions when my input should have been sought
* Using insulting language to talk about me, or directly insulting me
* Forcing me to have sex
* Threatening me
* Bullying me
* Harassing me
* Using me
* Underpaying me

Things like that. These things are actual controlling behaviors. Any type can do these things -- woot! Equal opportunity.
do you think that gaslighting can be due to being controlled of other quadra? What im reading on it is that your reality get undervalued and an other is pushed on you and you start to go crazy.