To be fair, I also fail to excel at the chill. But I think my energy is overall often restrained.
I'm no expert on Fi, but I noticed in chat and above, when someone perceived that we might be in conflict, and when I gave my "no offense" disclaimer, you handled the situations very warmly and personally, gauging not whether I was being objectively difficult or offensive, but apparently how you felt about it. I'm a bit different in this way, as I have ideas about "correct" behavior, principles of behavior, that somewhat supersede my personal feelings. For example, I might get angry at someone for acting like a jerk toward me even if it didn't really hurt me, because it could hurt someone, it's out of line, it betrays wordviews that poison the matrix. And if I'm forgiving of someone, it's not because I feel personally warm to them, but along the lines of whether I think they were committed to understanding what was expected of them toward humans in general and did their best. Intellectual and ethical failings are to be expected, but laziness in those realms are anathema to me. I understand my way of being here as congruent with the EIE brand of Fe. (Anyone think nay?)
So if you say that "we're good" but given the same behaviors and perceived intent you said to someone else, "we're not good," that would be how I see Fi from the perspective of a non-Fi-valuing person. I feel shut out from understanding what qualifies for "we're good."



Never considered Ij descriptions myself, this is practically the opposite of how I work.
I can see the argument that I have no Ti at all --> Fi must be the creative + ExFp arguments so far, but where does it manifest?
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