How do they show interest for eachother? Who initiates? etc.
How do they show interest for eachother? Who initiates? etc.
I had great fun with an ESE who moved here from Michigan and attended my high school (I was Freshman and she was Junior), she was fun n goofy and treated me well, even fed me! She wouldn't have started anything more with me though, because of "age". She thought I was too young. >~> Then some drama that I had no idea about happened and she separated from the rest of the Alpha SF group as she went to college and never talked to me since. ;-; I definitely would prefer an ESE over an SEI based simply off of experience, I need that extra boost of Fe, and someone with Creative Si to engage me in rather than use it independently and make it difficult for me to understand and appreciate.
ESE to LII: You are so wise and nice... and thin let me fed you.
SEI to ILE: You are so intelligent and nice but also funny prankster... haha haa
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ESE stalks LII and wants to touch them all the time until they have them to touch all the time lol and they engage in nerdy cultural intellectual subjects together in between
SEI and ILE go to the farmer's market together and SEI listens to the many anxiety related issues that the iLE deals with
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Anxiety issues? Yes, I have weird anxieties lurking everywhere.
Yes, I have seen and experienced ESE''s stalking and touching behaviour. One wanted me to wrestle with her. I wasn't very comfortable with it in that particular place and setting.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
With Alphas it's mostly about enjoying each other's company, having interesting discussions, doing activities together, and things like that.
The extrovert will generally take the initiative (this isn't necessarily true about all types, like LSIs and ESIs for example). If you're talking about romantic relationships, the way it seems introverted male / extroverted female works is that the male will take some token initiative to start with, at which point the female will basically take over adding new material to the relationship so to speak. That's the dynamic that I would prefer.Who initiates? etc.
Do not disregard ESE ability to . They can get pretty physically active and will accept LII's low iron pumping ability with great humour.
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Hmm, my sister is SEI and married to an ILE. I don't know the full details of their courtship but it was something like this....
During their college aged years they worked together at a grocery store in his hometown (not my sister's hometown, but we do have a lot of family in that area). I think they were friendly but they were not friends, more acquaintances. Then he transferred Universities and moved to another state.
Fast forward a decade and he was still living in another state. Meanwhile, his hometown's high school football team was undefeated that year. He, being a sport fanatic, still followed them. My sister, who doesn't care about football, happened to be really supportive and into the team that particular year because we had about 6 cousins on the roster. So anyway, my SEI sister and ILE had been facebook friends this whole time and started talking a bunch about the football team. Then he flew out to go to one of the games and viola, it became a date.
Fast forward another 6 months and they were married.
That story is probably not very telling in a socionics way, since it's more circumstantial than personally detailed, but that's what I know of it.
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On another note, I get the impression that there is a lot of play-fighting in their relationship. They are pretty hilarious. She is a republican and a nurse and Sunday school teacher. He is a democrat and part of the "leftist" media and probably an atheist. I don't have a facebook but my husband says they get into some pretty funny "fights" on facebook.
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ESEs are just more accepting. I think in general XSEs like to protect from Se.
Found this socionics art.
http://freyainverse.deviantart.com/a...-ESE-361298808
socionics_lii_ese_by_freyainverse-d5z3vy0.png
ESE and LII
Well, I remember one SEI who actually admired my way of going about . Thought that there was something very profound behind it by showing some restraint to it.
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Since propagating the species is the overriding imperative, I would think that physical attraction has to be the primary initiator. It's pleasing physical attributes and not intellect nor information processing style that usually seals the deal although mutual attractiveness by itself will not keep couples together. The attractiveness preference will be chosen repeatedly until luck puts compatible types together. If one no longer feels one has the option of getting the ideal look, only then will one will look (settle) for someone less - other attributes and perhaps compatibility (duality). First encounter is usually not intellectually based, especially in youth; one tends to gravitate to the looker, and take a chance to see if one has a winner. So any type can initiate this process in a multitude of ways. And, it's amazing how much crap a person will take from an attractive mate.
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