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    My mom is a clear cut ESE. I type my dad as LSI, but he really could be SLI.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunburst View Post
    Mom is EIE-Ni, Dad is SLE-Ti
    How does it feel to be a Delta in a beta household?

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    My dad is LSI (only second alternative typing is LSE, pretty sure he's a STj type).
    My mom is a SF, and probably a p type, most likely SEI.

    But I haven't pondered about their types too much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sunburst View Post
    Haha it's kinda ridiculous. Prior to learning about Socionics, I was convinced that I had gone through some kind of emotional neglect/abuse growing up. I still did (esp. with my dad), but it was interesting to discover that in many ways they just couldn't meet my needs.

    My mom used me for emotional processing from a young age--she's very much of the mind that her children are her best friends, which isn't healthy for either party. That's how her mom has been with her. But her narcissistic tendencies are only exacerbated by that, and she's very sensitive so it's difficult to provide real feedback about this or anything else. One thing I remember distinctly was coming home from college for the first time and being so excited to see her and everyone else; I was so happy and verbally expressed this, but she wasn't nearly as excited. It may just have been one of her moods, but her not being willing to meet where I was at, despite the fact that I go along with her Fe needs and provide emotional support all the time, kinda crushed me. I often felt very "put-upon" as well--like being told to come listen to what happened with her family when I had my own emotional day at school.

    My dad was very pushy about my sports performance as a kid, and the pressure he put on me and some of my siblings was a lot to deal with. He had/has severe anger issues in general too though, especially when challenged--and so he could really verbally unload on us. Also, this was more when I was a kid, but his Ti schedules and need for orderliness used to irk me a lot.

    But growing up in a Beta household taught me all of the things I don't want to be as a parent. I never want to yell at someone ever again after having been screamed at so much for standing up to my dad as a teenager (in an Fi way when his Se would go way too far). My parents' super authoritarian nature makes me want to be as understanding as possible with others. Also, when I have kids, I want to be understanding of them as their own people, rather than extensions of myself. Especially when it comes to political and religious views, my parents take it as a severe threat that I don't totally line up with how they see politics (they have no idea the extent though), and would react the same way with how I see religion. But this just results in me not being able to share myself with them and a one-sided relationship, and I would hate if my kids felt the same way about me. Of course, most of these are traits that I think Deltas would want to avoid anyways, but when you experience those behaviors first-hand, it solidifies your desire to be a better person than that (imho).

    I'm curious though, how has it been for you?
    Neither one of my parents was healthy even for betas. Dad especially has a lot of problems. You're right about the yelling thing, and the political and religious differences. I don't really want kids at all. Maybe that was due to my childhood, but maybe not. I gain satisfaction more from hobbies and personal interests. I don't feel like spending time and energy on kids.

    It was really easy to piss them off. Could hardly speak without offending them. To me they always seemed like frustrated perfectionists too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramas View Post
    Neither one of my parents was healthy even for betas. Dad especially has a lot of problems. You're right about the yelling thing, and the political and religious differences. I don't really want kids at all. Maybe that was due to my childhood, but maybe not. I gain satisfaction more from hobbies and personal interests. I don't feel like spending time and energy on kids.

    It was really easy to piss them off. Could hardly speak without offending them. To me they always seemed like frustrated perfectionists too.
    I definitely feel that; I've at least been much more hesitant about the idea since when I was younger. I'm really sorry you had to deal with some of the same things though. The having to walk on eggshells and watch what you say around them gets tiresome pretty quickly. Unhealthy types can be a lot to deal with anyways, but having them as parents and from the opposing quadra is the absolute worst.

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    Mom: SEE-D
    Dad: LSI-N
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    I also had very long relationships with LSIs.

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    Mom ESI-Fi, Dad EIE-Ni.

    Mom's mom, ESI-Fi, Mom's dad EIE-Ni.

    Dad's mom EIE-Ni, Dad's dad LSI-Se.

    Dad's mom's mom Beta ST creative function subtype, Dad's mom's dad EIE-Ni.

    I fucking HATE being the ethical subtype. The ESI-Se has it so much easier, can make tons of money without having to bust their ass, isn't anywhere near as OCD, is way more gentle and well-coordinated, doesn't require as much control, can have the relationships they want, have better Fi, Ti, Si, Ni, Ne, Se, and Fe, and is so much smarter and more original and more beautiful, isn't anywhere near as self-conscious nor as neurotic in any other way, not anywhere near as needy yet has better social skills anyway and can get out of what they don't want to do.

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    Mother - SEI-Si
    Father: LSE-Si
    Sister: SEE-Se
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    Mom is ILI-Te, I’m thinking dad is most likely SLI-Si. I didn’t grow up with him. They can’t interact without arguing, which can be comical but not really.

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    My parents humoured me by independently taking tests to find their socionics type.

    mother - ESI
    father - LSE

    The typings seem correct. Many moons ago we took the MBTI test and scored ISTJ ... !

    edit 18/6. I'm quite certain now that my own type is ESI - the same type as my mum, unless she is a Fi-valuing thinking type; ILI is possible. If she is indeed ESI, ours would be a N-polr family
    Last edited by thistle; 06-17-2021 at 08:29 PM. Reason: adding my own type and doubts

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    Quote Originally Posted by eiemo View Post
    Mother - SEI-Si
    Father: LSE-Si
    Sister: SEE-Se
    I am rethinking their types at the moment... I don't think that I typed ANY of them correctly, LOL.
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    Dad - ILI-Te
    Mom - ESE-Si

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    Quote Originally Posted by thistle View Post
    My parents humoured me by independently taking tests to find their socionics type.

    mother - ESI
    father - LSE

    The typings seem correct. Many moons ago we took the MBTI test and scored ISTJ ... !
    How do they get along?
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    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stray Cat View Post
    Dad - ILI-Te
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    Is this relation the source of cream pie comedies?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stray Cat View Post
    Dad - ILI-Te
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    Ouch. my mom is ILI-Te and I was raised by her and my ESE-Fe grandma. in theory the subtypes of your parents make them more compatible, but man, conflict is often UGLY when they live together.

    on another note, i see ILIs gravitating toward ESEs very often, more often than other conflictor pairs. I wonder why this is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinKDiGiT18 View Post
    Ouch. my mom is ILI-Te and I was raised by her and my ESE-Fe grandma. in theory the subtypes of your parents make them more compatible, but man, conflict is often UGLY when they live together.

    on another note, i see ILIs gravitating toward ESEs very often, more often than other conflictor pairs. I wonder why this is.
    My dad chose my mom believing she'd help look after my grandma (his mother) in her old age & also that my mom would support him (my dad) while he got his business started.

    My dad's polr is Fe, his DS is Se. My mom's strong in both. Not gonna bad-mouth my parents, I'll just recommend people use wisdom when choosing a partner

    Appreciate you sharing your personal story, btw

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinKDiGiT18 View Post
    Ouch. my mom is ILI-Te and I was raised by her and my ESE-Fe grandma. in theory the subtypes of your parents make them more compatible, but man, conflict is often UGLY when they live together.

    on another note, i see ILIs gravitating toward ESEs very often, more often than other conflictor pairs. I wonder why this is.
    My ILI brother just married an ESE (his second marriage)
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    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
    Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Dad: ILI (Ni)-ND 1 sp/sx
    Mom: SEI (Fe) - NH 2 sp/so

    im not really attached to either of them
    Last edited by necrosebud; 05-26-2021 at 02:55 PM.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    My ILI brother just married an ESE (his second marriage)

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    Quote Originally Posted by asd View Post
    ILI-SEI

    im not really attached to either of them
    what has your experience been having a beneficiary as a parent?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinKDiGiT18 View Post
    what has your experience been having a beneficiary as a parent?
    I seem to have started disliking him more recently
    seems to underestimate me
    zones out when I use Ne, which is always
    does not really know who I am, and when I tell him, attempts to overwrite with his own Ni theory/vision

    :/


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    Oops talked about benefactor instead, always mix them up
    I like my mom more in some ways but it’s subtle


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    ILI mom, ILE dad. Due to my mom’s Fi HA/excessive boundary setting they haven’t spoken in like 20 years lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Poptart View Post
    ILI mom, ILE dad. Due to my mom’s Fi HA/excessive boundary setting they haven’t spoken in like 20 years lol.
    this is an interesting one, a dual parent and a superego parent. what was that like for you? did you get along with your dad better than your mom?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinKDiGiT18 View Post
    this is an interesting one, a dual parent and a superego parent. what was that like for you? did you get along with your dad better than your mom?
    It’s not really a fair comparison since my mom did most of the child raising.

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    @Beautiful sky,

    since you asked - They have their ups and downs.

    The thing that distresses me the most about their ITR is that mum will shut herself in a room and swallow her feelings of being unappreciated, of being wrong/bad at something, rather than voice anything to my dad. She will press on with housework without complaint, to avoid contact. Dad will wonder why she opts to be "anti-social", but he won't investigate what could have led up to that.

    On the other hand, mum is extremely stubborn and will become exhausted and ill before asking for help. I see in my dad's body language that he's rather alone, deflated, when mum turns down his offers to ease her workload around the home. Luckily dad has other "outlets" e.g. physical work (outdoors); things that my mother is too frail to manage on her own.

    Of course, all decisions relating to finances or even their daily activities are controlled by my dad. He chooses, plans and has the final say. If it weren't for my dad's need to tick activities from a bucket list and travel abroad I doubt my mum would want such a lifestyle for herself. She doesn't seem to like being uprooted; says she does not need "treats", or vacations. What is the point of all that inconvenience and having to mingle with strangers, she says.


    They remain together for 35+ years, even with their misunderstandings.

    Sorry for going overboard with the description, I suppose it's hard to explain their dynamic without providing some background...
    (which does seem like getting things off my chest. Huh. Feels wrong somehow )

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    SLI mother, most likely IEI father. You can guess what happened.
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    Quote Originally Posted by asd View Post
    ILI-SEI
    It's the most rare IR to make stable pairs and hence low possible.
    I recommend to give them not a long test to get other possible types. One dichotomy may change IR to positive/neutral what has more chance to be true.

    Quote Originally Posted by one View Post
    SLI mother, most likely IEI father. You can guess what happened.
    what happened: they wanted to born you so much that ignored Socionics
    [types mb other easily]

    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    My ILI brother just married an ESE (his second marriage)
    ew... you should understand that the chance of a mistake is higher when you suppose so bad IR of people who agree to marry. if they'll stay for >5 years without clear emotional or relations problems - the mistake is almost not doubtful

    Quote Originally Posted by BrightDemonSheep96 View Post
    Is this relation the source of cream pie comedies?
    The experience of very good and very bad IR in significant feelings is among reasons of the interest to Socionics. In my case, for example.
    Comedies should be inspired by good IR. while bad IR may be behind horror genre stories.
    Last edited by Sol; 05-26-2021 at 01:32 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol View Post
    It's the most rare IR to make stable pairs and hence low possible.
    I recommend to give them not a long test to get other possible types. One dichotomy may change IR to positive/neutral what has more chance to be true.



    what happened: they wanted to born you so much that ignored Socionics
    [types mb other easily]



    ew... you should understand that the chance of a mistake is higher when you suppose so bad IR of people who agree to marry. if they'll stay for >5 years without clear emotional or relations problems - the mistake is almost not doubtful



    The experience of very good and very bad IR in significant feelings is among reasons of the interest to Socionics. In my case, for example.
    Comedies should be inspired by good IR. while bad IR may be behind horror genre stories.
    I would say love is blind, but I don’t think there is not much love from my parents lol. SLI mom is too pragmatic for that, it was just done because my grandmother introduced her to him, fearing that she would end up serving church and do charity work until old age. Mother thought she was getting older without anyone to take care of her so she said okay to the proposition. Such a downgrade to my grandparents’ love story and elopement tbh lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol View Post
    It's the most rare IR to make stable pairs and hence low possible.
    I recommend to give them not a long test to get other possible types. One dichotomy may change IR to positive/neutral what has more chance to be true.
    they were arranged married and both are SP first


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