Originally Posted by
niffer
"How would you describe your Fi polr?"
"How do you cope with it?"
It manifests differently between ILE and SLE. As ILEs are intuitive types, they are naturally in tune with and have full psychic access to the internal, more "spiritual" mental experience of humans and other living creatures. SLEs are not very much of this. By contrast, we are naturally in tune with and have full psychic access to what it means to have a physical body and to physically exist. At the core of ILEs' experience is a deep connection to the physical world and experience, and at the core of SLEs' experience is a deep connection to the spiritual meaning of everything. For both ILEs and SLEs, I believe Fi polr is about a natural emotional vulnerability, leading to an instinctual coping mechanism to mentally detach from our emotions as well as others', to keep ourselves safe from those who can hurt us due to us essentially having a primitive emotional toolbox and thus no other options for dealing with emotional issues. Make no mistake. Fi polr types are incredibly sensitive. I strongly identified with Jung's idea of Fi for many years, assuming that I was an Fi ego type for the first 6 years of my interest in Jungian typology. Other Fi polr types I've spoken about typology to have had issues with mistyping as Fi ego like me as well. Therefore, our insensitivity towards you is not intentional. It's half collateral damage from our own emotional numbing within ourselves, and half a tradeoff of nature where we've received lower EQ (emotional intelligence "quotient") for a higher IQ. In addition, we sometimes try to gain support from others (Fe) by putting others down, or otherwise are capable of hurting others for Fe-gaining purposes, through poor planning; being shitty and insensitive and "turning off" Fi in favor of Fe is instinctual and self-preservational. We know that our behaviour is wrong, but in moments like this, either we are on auto-pilot (I see this more with ILEs... it is more a sense of obliviousness and innocent ignorance of social norms with them), or that our survival instinct has been set off and it is extremely difficult for us to control ourselves in these moments. Without the social support of the group, as an individual you are dead meat, and Fi polrs know this very well. This is the other side of the coin to what it means to have Fe as a hidden agenda. It means to live with the fear that we may be rejected from our peers, our community, or our society at any time because we are constantly creating our own thoughts (Ti creatives--we are independent thinkers) which may not jive with the values and beliefs of those around us or may stir up outrage. This is what it means to be attracted to Fe creatives, our duals who are attracted to and who value and will be willing to take the time to comprehend our independent thinking and who have mediating qualities between people so that they are capable of reaching out and extending social acceptance to us, and helping us adapt to common social mores and graces.
There's no coping. There's only experiencing our emotional limitations and coming to understand them more clearly over time, seeing the signs for perilous situations when they come up and getting better at avoiding them over time. For me, learning about psychology has added to my understanding of people and emotions a bit, and learning socionics theory and integrating it into my worldview has been a massive game changer in terms of my understanding of the human experience, emotions, relationships, and life.