Quote Originally Posted by Hiketeia21 View Post
I see what you're doing. Good job.

Ah, well. Maybe it's the case, but I still have difficulty with seeing the idea of him dominant as anything but...cute. And apparently we agree that his dominance over me isn't ingrained in our personalities - at least, he didn't pick types that would make him my benefactor or supervisor. So, back to square one.
He asked to be the dominant one for a while, after you have been the dominant for a while. That's just sharing. What you say is that you're the dominant one. He isn't trying to dominate you, which was part of your past issues. What he is saying is that y'all do have some things similar, but he would like to have the reigns for a while, but knows that you're the one that is so concerned with dominating, not he. Basically, your hold-ups, due to the past, are the reason why he is being so considerate of your feelings on you being in charge. It has nothing to do with his capabilities of being dominant, just that he's far more concerned with your desire for it than with his own. If he wanted to repeat your bad past, he wouldn't be doing what he's doing now in the first place.

Also, that is your primary concern. You can also do the comparisons of the other elements for each of your views on the relationship as well. For instance, you place more value in your own emotional expressions in his eyes, and less into considering the emotional balance between each of you, that you're not as concerned with physical pleasures as him. You on the other hand, agree that he likes physical pleasures more than you, but you consider you both to be emotionally expressive and not concerned with considering emotional balance. He thinks you're both good at logic and weak at ethics. You think you're good at ethics and he is good at logic.

Able to keep going with this usage of socionics on your own?