being a control freak is terrible for people's sense of self-sufficiency, because they either have to give in and allocate their assertiveness to other energies(which disempowers them) or they are constantly fighting with you over it. perhaps try to even the playing field instead of having a dominant-subordinate relationship and see how he feels.

then look at if you need to be dominant, based on if the vision that comes about by behaving fairly with each other is sufficient for producing a life that has what you need in it.