i wasn't being quick to judge. i was wondering. i know you can't know from looking at someone why they are overweight (eta: also even if you know why they believe they are overweight, you actually still don't necessarily know why). that's kind of obvious i would think. i also have very little value judgment on the matter even though i think it makes more sense not to get pregnant when obese. it is true it doesn't doom one's children for sure, but i'd be concerned about it just as i would be concerned about some devastating genetic condition if i knew i had one to pass on - like your child has a 1/6 chance of inheriting x condition (that kind of thing). however, were i actually considering getting pregnant i'd research the matter first regardless... decisions would not simply be based on things i am wondering about. maybe after that the picture would look less bleak, or perhaps more so, i just don't know.
eta: i should add a disclaimer, because in a way it is like i'm saying it's all hopeless... but just as someone can work through their weight problems, one can work hard to keep their children healthy no matter their beginnings. so it's possible to make this work; just probably a lot more difficult in many cases. so i guess it's not really that it's unwise to have kids if one is obese or something, but just that one would need to be up for the possible challenge and dedicated. and many of my projections come from knowing that i am really lazy, and so then i'm not expecting much of others either?



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