Quote Originally Posted by Resonare View Post
To put it simply; he would hit me over the head with an Se hammer and I would beat him with an Fi one. By this, I mean that if I started worrying about something or became unsure, you'd quickly hear him say something like "Who cares!?", or sometimes "hmmmm..." *roll eyes* which would help me realize that I was being ridiculous about something and all I needed to do was just be myself and act. On the other hand, the Fi hammer was something I used on him far more probably because he was like a poster boy for Fi-polr. His plans and actions are something I don't want to get into but I would typically react like "Wow, you did that? That's so messed up man..." or "What the hell is wrong with you?".
Well it depends who had what intentions, if he did not have intentions to mess with you but you did have such intentions, there would be a difference clearly. I would not exclude semiduality here especially with what looks like Se DS from your part here.

Out of curiosity, example of such a plan/action of his that you reacted to this way "Wow, you did that" / "What the hell is wrong with you?". None of it sounds like ego Fi at this point.


Thanks to a lot of silly writers. Either they can't use the correct words to encapsulate their ideas or those stereotypes are actually accurate.

Anyway, I already know which one it is and I'm confused as to why you insist they mean something other than what they wrote. I've watched the live lectures by Eleanor Berdutina and she even mentions how the SEE is drawn to "weak" people.
See, how "weak" is in quotes. So now what is your problem? Of course it doesn't mean literally weak. So yes of course I'm going to insist that it's not as simple as that.

And the silly shit that some people spread... no comment. EjArendee went psycho crazy recently, apparently.


Quote Originally Posted by Resonare View Post
Ok, I've read quite a lot of material on socionics and I'm going with ESI because I do relate to Gamma SF values a lot but not the Ni-ego material. Te-ego is also questionable since I tend not to look at manuals or adhere to standard procedure e.g. when I started to learn guitar, I just purchased one, fiddled around with it and learnt to play my favorite songs. I've played guitar for 8 years now and I don't have any grades to show for it, which makes me think I'm probably not a Te-ego type as they would want external, measurable proof of proficiency.
Eh, do not type from one single example. You need to see TRENDS in your life. Not just a couple specific examples. Do you seriously believe that all Te egos that ever existed in this world will only play the guitar if they can get graded for it?!


Overall, the Gamma NT material sounds more like how I try to be rather than how I simply am. It's like I have to find an excuse or a loophole in the material I've read in order to identify myself with it. For example, every source I've read and victims I've interacted with or whose posts I've read all describe them as victims, maybe not to the same degree as other victims but still victims nonetheless. I can't just ignore my past relationships that outright contridict that. Even the non-sexual dual relationships don't sound right as I live in the moment/near future anyway so wouldn't need an Se-ego to bring me into the moment.

So that's it folks, thanks a lot to everyone who contributed to helping me find my type. If I'm wrong then I'll be back here but I'm sure this is my real sociotype, not one of the ones I try to behave like. I even look like the VI ESIs
Lol though, at post #161 you were saying you relate to Te and Ne the most.. ESI's two weakest. I still suggest you talk to ILI-Te's and ESIs on this forum. To me you are a clear-cut ILI-Te.