Is it strange that I knew you missed one?
Psuedo-Aggressors/Employees: LIE (ENTj) ILI (INTp)
These are types who exhibit aggressive tendencies in their everyday life, and as a result tend to carry over these notions and temperaments into their romantic life. They typically are not comfortable with connotations of the word "victim" - implying a certain weakness, effeteness, and lack of dignity. In searching for a partner, they are looking for a worthy opponent - someone who is strong enough to withstand their quirks without "breaking" so to speak.
I don't think any aggressor would be comfortable with being called a "victim", so that point seems moot. In terms of aggressiveness, people seem to get scared of me very easily irl i.e. flinching and whatnot just because of my presence, but I am (physically) harmless. I'm about 5'11, not muscular and I don't invade personal space. I've been told that it might be because I never smile but I know plenty of people who don't smile and don't have to deal with this. I mentioned before that I have a number of physical oddities so the part about finding someone who can withstand my quirks relates to me based on this, not that I'd ever want a partner anyway.
Aggressors/Employers: SEE (ESFp) ESI (ISFj)
These types, like the conquerors, express their sexuality openly. In daily life they may tend to be rather submissive and as a result may tend to carry over these tendencies into their romantic life. They are won over by indirect acts of submission, and are thrilled when their love interest (in the case of the "psuedo-aggressor" type) acts unlike himself. In a partner, they are looking for their equal - someone whose solid facade they can break down piece by piece.
Fairly sure this isn't me but some parts apply.
Conquerors: SLE (ESTp) LSI (ISTj)
These are assertive types who do not flinch at their own sexuality. They will express their own desire without reservation. They are won over by direct shows of submission (only after feeling that they have earned it). He will be insulted if his romantic interest gives him his title without question, and bored if the fight is too easily won. He, like the Pseudo-Aggressor and the Challenger, is questing to find his equal. Someone he can play his almost sadistic games with without "breaking."
What would a bullied, depressed conqueror look like?
I'm definitely not a challenger/trophy so I won't even bother highlighting (nothing) on it.
Aggressor
- no doubts about own interest in another person
- not prone to hesitation about whether or not to reveal that interest
- focus is more on own interest than whether or not the other person might reciprocate
- romantic interaction is more about "toughness" than "tenderness"
- needs to feel some sense of "superiority" over the partner, but worthwhile only if the partner is seen as able to largely "keep up"
- this takes the form of power games, which others might regard as cruel or bitchy
- in the case of female Aggressors with male partners, the above tends to assume the characteristic of a woman expecting total devotion from the partner, rather than her being "bossy"
- little inclination to externally admit not having been the one to end a relationship, unless if adopting a "who cares" front simultaneously
Victim
- prone to initial doubts about intensity of own interest in another person
- not always confident about revealing that interest
- inclined to focus on whether or not the other person might reciprocate the interest
- inclined to question whether or not the other person's interest will remain constant with time
- preference for partners that provoke in the individual a certain sense of awe in terms of power, physical presence, and the like
- appreciation for the sense of power-play present when interacting with such partners, with acceptance of a slight sense of superiority on the part of the partner, without ever actually "submitting" to them
- this takes the form of the individual somewhat expecting the partner to be "mean" on occasion
- in the case of Victim males with female partners, this latter trait assumes a characteristic analogous to a "knight devoted to his princess"
- inclination to openly admit to a relationship having been ended by the partner rather than by the individual himself
I'm at my best when in the near future but at my worst (like now) when I'm in the far future.



