Quote Originally Posted by chips and underwear View Post
Here’s something that has been on my mind lately. When someone posts something I find rude or harsh, I feel offended by it and I feel like I have to call out that person on it, to tell them it’s rude or inconsiderate. This has happened several times on online forums when someone says something that kind of pisses me off, that I think is a hurtful comment. Furthermore, I get bothered when it seems like no one is taking my side on it. When no one comes to say I’ve raised a good point or ‘likes’ the post I made. Then I wonder if it’s even valid to be thinking such a thing when no one seems to agree. Also, when the person who makes the comment doesn’t even apologize. At least say, ‘yeah, you’re right. I went a little too far in that comment. I’ll try to be more careful next time.’ Usually it's things like 'your type descriptions are terrible' or 'how can you be so ignorant to not know your type after studying the system for 2 years?"

It’s true I’m hypersensitive to criticism and harsh comments, even if they’re not directed at me personally, I can feel them as if they were. I imagine how I’d feel if the comment was directed at me. Most people probably aren’t as sensitive themselves so as a result maybe they don’t see things as being offensive where I would see it as such? Anyway, this is the one thing I hate the most about myself, that I would change in a heartbeat if I could. To be thicker skinned. To let criticisms and slights just roll right off my shoulder. To not care so much what other people think? I mean what practical benefits do I get from being the way I am? I suppose it makes me a kinder and more considerate person, but that benefits other people. It’s not benefitting myself. It’s not making me a happier person.

So based on this, can I still even be an LII? Because this sounds rather un-LII-like. Most LIIs I know, do not get worked up over such comments like these. Most LIIs are less emotional and thicker-skinned. Most LIIs don’t seem to care enough about ethics to get involved in debating about such things. This sounds more ethical. Whether it’s more Fi or Fe, I’m not sure. I think it could be both. Fi if it’s emphasizing the ethics and morals more. Fe if it’s more about mood and atmosphere. I am considering both EII and SEI as possibilities. I think the former is more likely because I do think I have strong Ne and weaker Si but I’m open to SEI or any other type.
chips, this really does sound EII to me, and not LII. i think i've mentioned thinking EII for you in the past too. i've had a hard time seeing you as LII, because i never see hard Ti analysis in your posts. your communication and verbalization is usually more Fi-oriented, you seem confident in making Fi evaluations and acting upon them (as you describe in the 1st paragraph in the quoted post), and you always talk about "relating" or "not relating" to things. also, i see you often asking for feedback, seeming unsure about your ideas and conclusions (weak Te). i think LIIs tend to be much more sure on their opinions about such things - they don't need anyone to "confirm" their ideas (not that they won't talk about them with others). and you're right that LIIs don't typically display the kind of sensitivity you mention. there's a reason why IxTx communication style is called "Cold-blooded"

it also sounds like you'd be an Oldham Sensitive type, which i would guess tends to correlate more to the Sincere (IxFx) communication style.