There is always tension when I know a girl is into me, but most hold back and hold all their cards and barely flirt. ESI are not the most outwardly flirty and expressive women, but the awkwardness, total ignoring, sternness on their faces and refusal to look at me reveals their attraction. Quick and darting eye contact is about it from them. I can always tell they like me because the annoyance and feigned indifference on the face of a woman I have never done anything to and this hostility towards me isn't warranted......... always screams to me ESI. And for reasons I can't articulate, this is hugely attractive to me......that kind of reserve is sexy, it screams strength and authenticity to me. IDK if that makes sense. Maybe socionics can explain it.
Attempts at friendliness and subtly usually incur harsher avoidance and coyness, so I say fuck it and booom............I give them the eye contact. I can tell that they are doing the best they can, but they are so buttoned up and I need to let her know, kind of put her out of her misery and my own impatience drives that. But I crank up the tension huge first, sexual tension is not a bad thing. It really is a strange power dynamic. I think showing my vulnerability although subtle kind of reassures them to open up some. It's still eggshells ofcourse, but mutual attraction has been established which is half the battle of working thru each others initial fears.
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lungs......you think showing vulnerability falls under "thrilled when their partner shows parts of themselves out of character"? "Strong façade they can break down..........etc"?
Don't think I know how to give Awwww shucks eye contact.