Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
It's not that they don't care. (I'll bet they eventually care a lot.) Probably it is rather that they
1. don't see the difference before it is too late, or
2. don't know what they could have, because they don't know what's out there. So, get out there. And be more accepting, once you see the guy. They might only be able to get up the courage to try once, and if they don't find acceptance right away, they will move on to someone who will accept them.

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SLE's may eventually find you more interesting, but they need to immediately find you more accepting.
I can confirm that: SLEs do need to observe a hint of interest, especially the Ti subtype. (Eye contact is often enough; a smile even better.) It could be a matter of being Fi PoLR – a weakness when it comes to assessing someone's emotional relation to them. That's how SEE can be greater flirts and womanizers; they are much more flexible and manipulative with their Creative Fi. SLE are still Logical types who feel a little bit of a strain when trying to move proficiently in the area of relationships.

Having said that, an SLE does not need overt signs of interest (esp. when Se subtype). Given their Dual is a Victim type, they are expecting of a girl to hold back at first and wait for being convinced/taken by a certain measure of "force". Also, the IEI tends to be "nice" even when turning someone down, because of their Creative Fe. They dislike causing negative emotional upheaval. So, when a girl shoots an SLE down unforgivingly harsh, the SLE will quickly turn away and move on. Likely because such a treatment often indicates a lack of Fe valuing, more in favour of categorical Fi dismissal.

Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
You need to save the "hitting them with a rolled up newspaper" until they've tried to crawl into your lap for the fifth time that day.
This sounds more like something an ILE would do in the need of being taken care of.
SLE is not really someone who desperately desires to crawl into someone's lap, they want to remain some sort of dignity and find such behavior pathetic.
They would only do it if they were already close with the person, sure of their respect for them, and likely experiencing a moment of emotional weakness.