Quote Originally Posted by silke View Post
Learn to recognize them and take initiative in becoming acquainted with the ones that you really like. That's about all advice I can give.

Duality works as a kind of back-and-forth mediatory process, ime, so dive into their habits and interests, else they will barely recognize you and try to make lt girlfriend of some ESI.
This is so true, haha!
I have noticed with my own LSI cousin the need to tap into his ST interests (mostly cars haha) and habits to cross the bridge between NF and ST. Once that has happened, we will get along pretty easily and harmoniously and learn from each other in the process.

Whenever you want to get closer to an ST as an NF, you most likely will have to go into the sphere of their interests and occupations; unless they have done the opposite and tried to get closer to the NF habitats themselves before. @summerprincess Read up on the Clubs and figure out what STs like to do in their free-time or as a career, and go somewhere that caters to it.

Ideally, both parties will eventually start to adopt the other's viewpoint, and then meet half-way. The result would be a beautiful marriage of the ST and NF worlds.
I am exaggerating, but I think you get my point.

At last, I have noticed myself how often SLE will be attracted to ESI or SEI... These are like the top two types they usually seek out regularly. ESI is the flighty bird they cannot obtain and, it is like a moth to the flame situation. Whereas SEI is their (easy) wife material.

Technically, the IEI would combine the aspects of both ESI and SEI the SLE is interested in...