I recently read an Article from Rick's socionics site called Awakening the ego. I thought it was a good article. What he is saying is that if you lead with your strongest functions you will have the most benefit to society. You will appear most attractive to other people. You will feel most contented.
I asked him how he thinks an ENFp should show and and his reply was:
Develop your ability to give insightful and useful perspectives on people and social phenomena. Pay attention to people who seem to be asking for such a perspective, and conscientiously help them better understand people's motives and behavior. See that your interpretations and views address people's actual concerns, and be prepared to elucidate your ideas by giving examples and analogies. Learn to help people verbalize their feelings towards people and the reasons for these sentiments. Develop a broad and liberal view of people and relationships that encourages people to be themselves and find and develop their innate potential. Avoid judgmentalism and learn to help people see things from other people's perspective and appreciate different viewpoints. Develop an intriguing persona and a carefree and spontaneous, yet tactful and sensitive communication style. Seek out unusual life experience in the people around you and get them to tell you about it. Write down important insights and experiences in some form and try to understand how everything fits together. Display willingness to take time to try new and interesting things with people you find interesting and fun to be with.
Makes sense to me. Food for thought. You can find the article at
Any other types are welcome to post how they could best use their ego functions