Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
Doesn't everyone obsess over their lover when they're in a relationship? I don't think this is exclusive to sx first, I think it's just human nature. I'm sp first, and when I'm in a relationship it often becomes my whole world and the only thing I can ever think about (and I fucking hate it).

The only difference is that I'm extremely picky and would rather be single for long periods of time than just attach myself to some random person. I can only be with someone if I really deeply feel it, and that connection doesn't come with just anyone... it's extremely special to me. When I do fall in love, I lock on and can only see them, and it's very difficult for me to break away from this person, even if they've turned out to be toxic. I will spend years in a shitty relationship because of this, whereas most people would have broken it off and quickly moved on. I think this is a quality of sp/sx in particular.

I think sx firsts more or less constantly have to be in a relationship or a fling, or at least looking for love. They also seem to be able to fall in love and connect to others very easily. They can't be single for long, otherwise they'll go crazy.
Sx firsts are extremely picky for the reasons i've stated above. Sx firsts dont constantly have to be in a relationship. Like i said, it doesnt bring me any joy if im not feeling that this person is special. But when I dont have someone (im in love with), i feel empty.
When I do fall in love, I lock on and can only see them, and it's very difficult for me to break away from this person, even if they've turned out to be toxic. I will spend years in a shitty relationship because of this, whereas most people would have broken it off and quickly moved on. I think this is a quality of sp/sx in particular.
That's sx first. sp/sx want to always have someone regardless if they feel something special for them. Of course they like to be in love like anyone else, but theyre more practical, and likes to always have physical(sp) intimicy (for example, giving up a long distance relationship for another local person, because physical intimacy). sx often wants to maintain it no matter how shitty or abusive, or unpractical it is, because they dont want to lose the connection and spark they have. They feel like they will never love again.