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    When I decide I want something, I go after it. I decided at 16 that I wanted to live in the U.S. and have worked towards that since then. I sacrificed financial security and a comfortable life with a high salary and being close to my family and a support network for my current career and for living in the U.S. I decided to go for a degree with which I ran a legitimate risk of not finding a job. I have been vulnerable for 16 years with regards to losing a job or not being able to function because that would have meant losing everything, including my visa, and having to leave and start over. When I had cancer, my doctor suggested that I go back home to have a support network and time to recover (and free treatment). But I was not willing to risk my career and my visa, so I decided to tough it out alone. My doctors did not like it because of possible complications, but for me it was the only way, so I took the risk.
    I realize that non-sx-firsts do these things, too, but I think the difference is how much you agonize over not feeling secure. It has never been priority for me and I have a pretty high tolerance for discomfort. I would like to a have someone who takes on building the home base because I am not good at it and I don't find it important or exciting enough to bother much beyond the basics. But if I had to chose between the comfortable and stable and secure home base and throwing all our money into a 3-year trip around the world and worrying about what we will do after later, I would take the trip.
    Last edited by Kim; 09-20-2015 at 02:09 PM.
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