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I'm not all that attached to any typing, and have considered various stackings, but:
"When Sexual Ones find a partner who they believe shares their values, they become extremely excited and highly protective of their relationship. They may also idealize the partner, constantly striving to feel worthy of the other's love. Nonetheless, anxieties about the partner's losing the shared values may cause Sexual Ones to become critical of the other. They want to remind the partner of the high standards that they both live by but they can create problems in the relationship by trying to keep the other "on track." Nonetheless, they are passionate about their intimates and devoted to keeping their relationships moving toward higher ground."
and
"May be preoccupied with their romantic partner. Have high expectations based on having idealized their beloved. . . One's reaction is jealous judgment if their beloved acts in less-than-ideal ways. Jealous Ones may drive partners away with endless criticism. Can have a dependent tendency related to the low side of 2. Most intimate Ones have a 2 wing"
are unfortunately true for me and this has been a real struggle to try to overcome. I'm extremely jealous, possessive and some might say controlling, and I damn well don't want to be. The other stackings don't apply to me in this way as being so descriptive of a very real problem I have. I can see some sp in general in me, but the sp 1 descriptions are foreign to me and the so 1 has some application but still doesn't describe me.
For general, non-1 stacking descriptions: elements of every stacking seem to apply, but I have in the past given up everything else for sx, and would again. My personal safety, security, social connections and belonging matters less to me, but they do compete. For example, knowing my family does or would disapprove of someone or something does make it harder for me, but in the end, it doesn't stop me. Even knowing I'd have to completely give up all my family connections wouldn't stop me, but it would be very hard. It is difficult because they are really my only connections, support, and place where I feel somewhat understood. Giving up my home and possessions is easier. That I could do without much struggle. One thing that probably overrides all 3 instincts though, is my sense of responsibility. If someone is depending on me, if they need me, that is more important than anything else at the moment. I protect my life and avoid risks because of other people rather than myself, and it sometimes frustrates me that I have to do so, but I always will uphold my obligations and responsibilities. Maybe that is social instinct, but it doesn't feel like it, because it is only for specific people, not towards any organization or group or anything.
I feel like I understand and can empathize with the needs of all 3 instincts, because like every other human, I have all the instincts as well, but I think I have more empathy for sx and maybe even so more than sp. I get not wanting to be ostracized (so) that makes sense to me, I can understand that need and fear, but I find it difficult to understand someone whose safety and comfort is more important to them than anything else. So, I'm sure that I am not sp primary. However, because of how easily and naturally I take care of sp things without much thought, I also don't think it's my blind spot. I don't have quite the devil-may-care attitude I kind of envy in many sx/so types. I'm too responsible to be as irresponsible as I'd like hehe. I'm also 100% sure I'm not sx-last. The idea is kind of laughable. I don't mind if people think I am, or were to type me that way, because sp/so and so/sp are so often seen as undesirable types to be around here, that nobody seems to want to be them. I don't mind filling the quota or whatever though, because it seems to me that a lot of people use typings to feel better about themselves in some way, almost as a source of pride. I don't. So, if someone wants to say, "squark is sooo sp/so because blah blah and I am NOTHING like her so I'm sx-first" that's fine with me.
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