Well I would have a problem with it too and this is simply the Fe valuing, IMO. Though in my case it's not about constantly questioning the state of the relationship because I can judge that by other means. But as soon as I feel like we are at a point with someone in a romantic relationship where the distance should be more reduced than the fixed distance I default to if Fe-wise things are not ok to me, I will have a problem, will question if things are actually ok. I don't feel doubtful for long though, I eventually decide things are wrong and drop the whole thing forever.
How exactly does it play out for you is what would say more about your type.
But it does not sound like your dual is an ILI
Well that says you have a strong sx and a strong soc instinct.I also have stated this in previous threads about me being SEE, and how in relationships, I really like feeling "ownership" over the person.. I always makes jokes about training the guy like a puppy.. lol. In romantic situations, I definitely relate most to being the Aggressor, the initiator.
IRL I am quite an attention whore tbh.. I love having others compete for my time, I like feeling needed, popular, etc.. I care a lot about my social standing and part in the community and like to involve myself in positions of power.
Do you not at all relate to Victim? Victim types can take on other styles.
This sounds more like some psychological issue, not plain information processing related. Identity problems involved here? Anyway if any of it is IE related it doesn't sound like SEE with you having to ask others about what kind of person you are.I also tend to ask people constantly about what kind of person I am, if I am a good person or not.. because I really doubt myself often. I also have a problem with burning bridges and being extremely reactive to any displays of negativity or aggression and fighting back against it. I am the farthest thing from "tactful" I guess you could say, but I am working to improve this.



validation constantly from loved ones.. particularly boyfriends.. I'm all about getting that over the top emotional expression from someone. I was reading the SLEs feeling insecure due to weak
thread and I related a lot to it. I question the state of relationships or bonds if I'm not shown overt displays of affection.
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