Quote Originally Posted by bg View Post
@the asking about being defriended thing, i've got people in my friends list who i wouldn't be bothered being defriended by, and some who i'd just roll my eyes at. then the people who i give a shit about and I guess with them I'm hurt and wondering but also feel like their defriending me could mean that they needed space and that whatever the reason is for it they couldn't bring themselves to address it with me yet (were too upset or angry). if it's someone i really see as a friend i figure that they'll come back once they've worked it out (or a way to talk about it where it won't possibly be a friendship ending fight where things not really meant were said). I'm totally seeing other people as how i would deal with things, i'll admit that. also, MUST AVOID CONFLICT!!! PP but if i do like you enough to where it hurts i'll probably be passive aggresively trying to communicate my confusion and misery in some way to try to get you to come talk to me. idk it's not the most adult way to deal with it i'll admit, but just being honest.
When my list was small, and mostly members of the group I was in, I unfriended 2 delta females (delta in hindsight) because I was told that they talked about me, to some of my friends, questioning my morals. lol Then when I was around I just felt like a vibe of disdain always being directed toward me even though they were being "nice".

When I mentioned it to some mutual friends (they hadn't talked about me to) those people were all like "it's all in your head, they are nice to you." but I already felt some kind of scorn directed at me, from those two, so I was not convinced. Later those people also caught on to the energy I was talking about. Never regretted removing them. If you talk badly about me behind my back just make sure I don't find out. Doesn't that make sense to anyone but me? Why talk bad, about me, to people (betas) they know actually like me and will tell me what was said. Anyway I felt pleasure while removing them and also giving them the cold shoulder in future interactions. I was not going to pretend I didn't know what was going on.

This thread is cathartic. I am going to go post something transcendental on fb now.

Edit: Also, if they had just told me they thought my morals sucked I could have dealt with it and probably would not have removed them. hahah