Quote Originally Posted by Lily View Post
I can't speak for everyone, but if I project disrespect towards those with different Facebook views, it isn't conscious or intentional. I can see how my manner might come across as disdain, ie the "no thx" comment. But I don't actually think that everyone who doesn't share my views uses me or others as placeholders or anything, and I do not want to convey a lack of respect. I find your views, for example, fascinating - but at the same time somewhat puzzling. I appreciate your posts - they are comprehensive, patient, and utterly thoughtful - but I feel as if I have hardly any grasp on your motives or viewpoints other than a cursory, outsider view. So if there are barbs in what I say, they are borne out of frustration, not a desire to wound or to disrespect you. And I agree that it seems there is a larger portion than usual of sx/sps among this forum/thread. But it might be also good to keep in mind that (at least from my POV) there isn't much opportunity to let off steam about such things on other venues, albeit something like a personal blog (which unless you have a lot of subscribers kind of feels like throwing your firstborn into the void) - if I posted something like this on Facebook, I assume it would be weird and create drama. Again, I can't speak for everyone, but as a likely sx/sp, I often feel like the things you are explaining in your posts go completely over my head and the resulting loudness is compensation for feeling disconnected - not necessarily a hive mind of sx/sps waiting to descend on you. I really appreciate your posts and I don't want you to feel like an outsider.
thanks Lily i understand... you're right, i don't need to feel that way... i felt a bit worried about the acute difference i feel between myself and a lot of people in this thread regarding social media behavior... based on people's viewpoints here, it seems like i might come across as one of those people others assume "don't care" about them, based on my own behavior on social media (i feel like i do care in my own way, even if from a distance...) i know that maybe i may come across as unavailable, unknowable... i have an sx-first friend IRL who says that most people don't know me well at all, but they *know* that they don't know me and don't press much - while with her, they *think* they get to know her, but realize later they actually don't, and her relationships can quickly sour after that. she can be polarizing figure whom people either love or hate (i wonder if she's sx/sp after all... either way, i'm one who loves her lol)

so yes, thanks for your post.... i know this forum is definitely a place where people vent and let off steam - it's always been that as long as i can remember - and places like this are much needed. especially when there's so many intelligent, understanding, and good people to listen and get feedback from here (: