Out of curiosity, have you looked into Se-creative / ESI and LSI? I had an impression of ESI from our photos, fwiw, and Se-cre from your description. That would be introverted aggressor, which may be more up your alley than straight-up Victim.

Suggested reading: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...=1#post1073540

whole exchange from onwards: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...=1#post1073636

In general the last two pages of that thread are good.