
Originally Posted by
Adam Strange
You might not be an IEI. I'm not very good at typing people, to be perfectly frank. That's why I prefaced my remarks with the statement that they are simply my opinion.
With respect to your identifying most with being the "Aggressor", I'm definitely an LIE, and I think you'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who knows me, or who has been intimately involved with me, who would say that I'm not aggressive. I was in total disagreement with my being called a "victim" in the Erotic Attitudes article. Nevertheless, the description has enough elements of truth, and predicts a good deal of my behavior (at least some of the time), so that I now agree with the description, while still disliking the label.
So-called "Victims" are, I think, looking for people who will be loyal to them, and you stated that loyalty was very important to you. I don't think most Aggressors care that much about loyalty (especially their own), because there's always another Victim available, and it's actually all about them finding someone who will love them, rather than them finding that one person whom they will love. But again, that's just my opinion.