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    Quote Originally Posted by Kim View Post
    I don't think it is necessarily about "approval" per se (as in "please like what I do/who I am"), but rather an assessment of how and where on fits into a social context because those are constantly changing and shifting. For example, if you do work that is for the benefit of people, it can be difficult to assess its impact without feedback. So the feedback is appreciated because it helps to figure out how it affects social dynamics, not (only) because it strokes the ego. So firsts structure their lives around being part of a group, so they have to be concerned with how they fit in there.
    That makes sense.

    I feel like so gets an unfortunate reputation of being a slave to social approval. You could flip and say it's sad not to care enough about the social context you yourself affect to give a damn of how people are affected by it (because you don't care about their feedback).
    I'm sure So-people feel a similar way to me when I read comments by Sp-lasts about Sp, heh. The thought of...'but that's part of what I LIKE about it!'
    Funnily when Sx lasts comment about Sx I've more of a nod of agreement that yeah, it's a pretty intense stacking which brings a host of problems on its own.

    [edited to add: i think approval/disapproval might have been the wrong phrase for me to use in the previous post, I wasn't imagining the seeking of approval. I had actually imagined So it to be more like a sensitivity to when others disapprove, and maybe a sense of self-satisfaction when others happen to voice approval. Like, I just had a conversation with my mom. She mentioned that she stopped reading my facebook newsfeed because some of my posts made her upset. I'm pretty sure those would be the posts in support of same-sex marriage and criticisms of using religion to make it illegal. She's a very religious person, and her religion put in millions of dollars to prevent legalizing same-sex marriage. Anyways, the example is that she'd be sensitive to the criticisms and disapprovals in my posts, even if not directed straight at her, while for me, I was able to shrug off her disapproval of my posts. I didn't intend to hurt her, but I'm not going to alter myself to suit other people's feelings/wants/expectations of me, even from those I love.]
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