Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
It was like that for me until I decided that was no good. Though I am selective about who I want to try and keep in touch with.
Why is it no good though? I rarely talk to people outside my current sphere of mutual influence including some family members. If I am in ongoing communication with someone it is usually serving a purpose for both of us. Sometimes it is emotional and sometimes information or energy exchange. I do not want to feel like I have to force myself to communicate when there is no reason to. Sure I will randomly send a friend a message of support if it comes to my attention they are going through something but in general I do not keep up with anyone I am not interested in sharing an experience with right now. People outgrow each other all the time and I don't think anyone should feel bad about being in a different place. I don't want stagnant relationships built on expectations. Not saying you do but some do guilt others for not maintaining long term bonds. Not saying you are. I have said I still feel as much love and caring for most people I was close to in my past but when I try to talk to them now sometimes it just feels awkward or like work because we no longer share personal interests. so then it sort of naturally fades away again.