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    Quote Originally Posted by SisOfNight View Post
    I've certainly seen myself and others "move" to those specific instincts when trying to look for a partner.

    I've been wondering whether people have different stackings (temporarily) when looking for a mate. As in So/Sx would become Sp/So when looking for a partner; they would value things an Sp/So would value, when looking for a mate. I can say this is indeed what I have noticed with myself. I am putting a lot of stock into someone's (financial) security.
    I have been seeing an IEI from France who owns a small restaurant. We are no longer seeing each other (Thanks, Supervision!), but I like her, and tried to fix her up with an SLE friend of mine (If I we can't be happy together, maybe she can be happy with someone else). He is handsome, thin, fit (from fencing), mature, very intelligent, ex-Navy, gave a lot of emotional support to his previous alcoholic and depressed girlfriend, tells funny stories, and is generally a really good guy. I showed her his picture, and she said, "Let me see! Good hands. What does he do?" I told her that he works at odd jobs, sometimes builds scenery for a theater group. She said, "Don't bring him around."

    The only thing I can imagine is that she thought he didn't make enough money. I should have said nothing and just "accidentally" introduced him to her in person, and let Duality and Stacking work it out in the moment.

    This business of looking for a partner is unnecessarily difficult. Evolution has designed us to mix the genes (to make up and break up), and not for happiness. In fact, since long term happiness with one person might prevent frequent gene mixing, evolution would select against it.

    Well, I tried.
    Last edited by Adam Strange; 08-01-2015 at 06:21 PM.

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