@GOLDEN, wow, that was a very moving and convincing account. Yes, you are right, those things @Hitta said are true, but you really made the picture clear. Also @glam had sobering points. Your story, Golden, brings to mind for me the the work world and what it was like for women depicted in the Mad Men series my husband and I watched this winter (Netflix). I imagine you've probably seen it; its popular. The 60's weren't so long ago, and in spite of superficial appearances to the contrary, things just haven't changed so much at core.

And something else came to mind. My neighbor who watches my Mom while we go to Mass is downsizing to move, and her house is like a library, and she keeps bringing me books (but my house is like a library too!). Among her offerings was an old 1980s faded paperback, Games Mother Never Taught You, by Betty Harragan. I read it because I had never read anything like it, and I found it fascinating, revealing aspects of truths of the work world that I never would have considered. It really stuck with me. It helps to know the unwritten "rules of the game" because apparently, our gut feelings, personal principles about how we think we should go about things are not always the things that work. There's something more there. Another thing I learned from this book is that our woman's intuition combined with knowing the unwritten rules can give us a leg up in the game . So I highly recommend it to you, in your situation! Many are in print, so you can get used ones for pennies plus shipping.

I agree completely with this reviewer on Amazon:

"Tells you the rules of business very clearly...... and if you weren't either a football player in high school or in the military you don't know them. It's written for women, but any men that weren't jocks or military need to read this too. I used to wonder why I got in trouble at work -- now I know and don't do it anymore. I'm getting well paid for my work, get along with my co-workers and management, and my career is on track. I recommend this book to everyone I know, the few who actually read it get the same results I got. It's a little dated, but don't let that stop you. The corporate culture (at least in the United States) hasn't changed much this century and it's not likely to change anytime soon. Some of the details she presents may be different, the general principles are still completely current. Also, she's a fun writer and it's a good read."

Golden, am I recalling correctly that you are married to your Dual? Even if he doesn't get this situation, I am sure he is peace to you, and that is something you need, and it seems to me as if God saw you needed that and blessed you with your Dual. Also I feel He urges me to pray for you, that you find satisfactory and rewarding work, so I am going to do that, by asking intercession of St. Joseph the worker and St. Dymphna.